Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I was watching a tv show. Don't know what it was, but this man was explaining something to a group of people.
He said that when someone takes a frog and puts it in a pot of boiling water, the frog hops right out and does not get hurt.
If you take a frog and put it in a pot with room temperature water and slowly turn up the heat, the frog doesn't know the danger until it is too late to save it's life.
I thought about that for a good long while.
I wish I had jumped out sooner, but I made the jump to safety.
I survived the one who placed me in the water pot and slowly turned up the heat.
He said that when someone takes a frog and puts it in a pot of boiling water, the frog hops right out and does not get hurt.
If you take a frog and put it in a pot with room temperature water and slowly turn up the heat, the frog doesn't know the danger until it is too late to save it's life.
I thought about that for a good long while.
I wish I had jumped out sooner, but I made the jump to safety.
I survived the one who placed me in the water pot and slowly turned up the heat.
Good for you for taking control of your life.
I am glad you made it.
That is how I felt about my marriage too. I felt like I was crazy, but crazy people don't know they are crazy... My friend had told me for years just because he hasn't hit you doesn't mean it isn't abuse. Yet because my first marriage was much more physical than my second I could not grasp what she was saying. Everything was so suble (like the water in the pan) I really thought it was me.
This a great way to think about it too, in a weak moment when our minds aren't our friends, to think about what you have shared can go a long way, and help us remember where we came from.
(((hugs)))
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It sounds really good, want to check it out! Thanks for the great tip!
Thanks to everyone for sharing here!
Hugs!