Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have never considered myself a pushover. WHAT is this hold this man has over me? I have been on the verge of making him leave so many times, but he always turns it around and I end up pleading with him to stay like a FOOL! He tells me I'll be sorry, and I am giving up a good man, and someone else will be happy to have him, and last minute I always back down. WHY? How does he do that? The rational me knows that he is killing me slowly.
In my case, it also became apparent that mine had treated others the same way before me - I was just the first one to actually live with and marry him, so I got the physical, sexual, financial, and heavy emotional abuse as well. But he was at the mind games and the first signs of emotional abuse with them before he broke up with them.
I do think sometimes, "I`m not his first, and I sure as hell won`t be his last." He is a narcissist with some psychopathic and even sociopathic tendencies. He has never been without a gf since being a young teenager, and has told me himself how he treated them all.
But all that doesn't change the fact that I, as an individual, don`t deserve that sort of treatment. Nobody should be treating ANYONE that way full stop. He shouldn't be treating YOU that way.
And you know what? The very fact that he IS treating you like this is exactly what proves that he ISN'T this "good" man that he purports to be. If he was, he wouldn't be doing any of it.
Sending huge hugs xxx