Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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An excellent thread was posted
yesterday, (thank you, tulip),
about building self-esteem.
I thought I'd follow that up
with an on-going thread
where members could
post something they did
today or yesterday or this
past week, that made them
feel good about themself
(doesn't matter what that
something is).
So far today, I've completed
two-thirds of my physical
exercise routine. I did 50
minutes on the elliptical
and ten regulation push-ups.
I'll complete the other third
of the routine, (a series of
strenuous streches), later
in the day.
Doing this virtually every day
makes me feel fit, strong
and there for myself.
yesterday, (thank you, tulip),
about building self-esteem.
I thought I'd follow that up
with an on-going thread
where members could
post something they did
today or yesterday or this
past week, that made them
feel good about themself
(doesn't matter what that
something is).
So far today, I've completed
two-thirds of my physical
exercise routine. I did 50
minutes on the elliptical
and ten regulation push-ups.
I'll complete the other third
of the routine, (a series of
strenuous streches), later
in the day.
Doing this virtually every day
makes me feel fit, strong
and there for myself.
For self-esteem I set a timer for 15 minutes at a time and changed my winter clothes over to spring/summer.
I reached out to a friend over a stress factor.
I accepted a job offer however uncertain about passing background investigation. felt good knowing I did well on interview with 2 HR people.
Over the winter I
researched and
picked out my next
set of tires, which
I had put on the car
yesterday.
Feels like a great
new pair of shoes.
Now I'm ready for
a summer road trip!
out the trunk of my car, which
is no small feat.
I've put in an hour already
and probably need at least
another half hour to do an
adequate job.
My tendency is to throw
stuff in and drive. It's not
seen and not in anyone's
way. But recently I had a
flat and had to pull out
the spare tire. I got it
out. . . . but couldn't
get it tucked back into
the niche that's hollowed
out just for that purpose.
So I decided. . . . . as
much as I'd rather be
doing anything else,
it was time to see to
sorting through and
clearing out years of
flotsam that's unseen
but doesn't serve me.
(In the winter, it's ballast.
In the summer, just adds
drag.)
I'll be taking a road trip
and need the space for
my suitcase. Very soon,
I'll have it.
This may not seem like
an awesome achievement,
but for me, it is and makes
me feel like I'm doing
something that benefits
my life.
I know it's really hard for many of us to recognize that we not only do things for which we can be proud, but we also aren't always able to see ourselves deserving of being proud or of feeling good about what we have done.
I am in process of 'spring cleaning' my house and divesting myself of unnecessary stuff. It always feel so overwhelming. But each time I take a box out to my car to take to a philanthropic organization, I know I'm making progress.
I also, got some of my and my daughters clothes together to donate or throw away.
was restless so boutght a few flowers to plant.
"stole" Ilenes idea and did some push-ups but on my knees. ha
continue to improve relationtinships w/ children n stuck to my guns n forced my daughter t do her chores, vacuum rug n take out recyclables. she was fine after tantrum...I'm practicing breathing in for 5, then releasing for 5.
just keeping in mind how much more peaceful my lilfe is now verse when I was with him.
I didn't bite when he contacted me and kept insisting I meet him for lunch. I broke NC, not good.
It's a small thing , but it is a result of changing my thinking process and focusing on taking care of myself instead of changing other people and being disappointed as a way of life.
(The only person
we have any hope
of changing, is
ourself!)
I've stayed with the
same stylist for 30
years. I've moved
around. She's
moved around.
But if I have to
drive forty minutes
to get to her, I do
and I will.
(In my opinion, a
good stylist is like
a great therapist.
When you've found
the right one, stick
with them.)
Also. . . . MTC. . . . .
I'm an advocate for
the expression of
gratitude. It's the
basis of my
spirituality. Most
of my prayers are
thank you's for my
abundant blessings.
Tuesday morning I
(re-) did an interview
for a documentary
about survivors. (The
first try had disappeared
when the studio's
computer crashed.)
And the afternoon. . . . .
I took completely off,
had lunch and went
consignment shopping
with one of my best buds
at one of our favorite shops.
A day well spent!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t-ouxPhYy7Y
That person whom I fell to...........was myself.................
"Feels Like Home"
Somethin' in your eyes, makes me wanna lose myself
Makes me wanna lose myself, in your arms
There's somethin' in your voice, makes my heart beat fast
Hope this feeling lasts, the rest of my life
If you knew how lonely my life has been
And how long I've been so alone
And if you knew how I wanted someone to come along
And change my life the way you've done
It feels like home to me, it feels like home to me
It feels like I'm all the way back where I come from
It feels like home to me, it feels like home to me
It feels like I'm all the way back where I belong
A window breaks, down a long, dark street
And a siren wails in the night
But I'm alright, 'cause I have you here with me
And I can almost see, through the dark there is light
Well, if you knew how much this moment means to me
And how long I've waited for your touch
And if you knew how happy you are making me
I never thought that I'd love anyone so much
It feels like home to me, it feels like home to me
It feels like I'm all the way the back where I come from
It feels like home to me, it feels like home to me
It feels like I'm all the way back where I belong
It feels like I'm all the way back where I belong
I have been really struggling with my healing process lately(my emotions have woken up and are terrorizing me 24/7). Today I went on a sabbatical so could focus and organize my life. I exercised quite a bit. The biggest thing that I have done lately is open up about whats going on with me.
Razz
I am proud today because:
I initiated & met with my daughters grandmother and father to include n discuss them on camp, even though it may be challenging.
wrote an e-mail to recruiter inquiring about start date of job.
continue to remain no contact.
try to accept my accomplishents and not diminish them.
I feel that my words and voice can be heard and I want to express it and I want to live.
longer put off dealing
with a huge, expensive
home repair. I need to
get a new roof up onto
my old house. For years
I've been finding broken
pieces of roofing shingles
in the driveway. Before
the rain starts seeping
in, this job is required.
So, this weekend, I'll
begin reading up on
all aspects of this
subject. . . . what I
need to know about
roofing, and what I'll
need to ask when
getting quotes from
multiple contractors.
This isn't my idea of
a good time, but I'm
fortunate enough to
be a homeowner and
this is part of the deal.
The responsibility is
mine. So I'll pull on
my big girl panties
and get this project
started. Surely, it
can't be any worse
than what I had to
do to shut down an
abusive marriage,
and I got that done.