Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Some of my friends on here may remember my story from before. I haven't been on here in awhile, I think mainly out of denial. I tried to convince myself that things were ok. Basically, I went to Australia to be with my emotionally abusive boyfriend. I went there anyway, despite support from friends on here for me not to go.I just came back home to Canada recently with him for the holidays and he thinks that I'll be going back with him, Basically things went ok this time except for an incident that happened, which I've tried to block out of my head but am having a hard time with now. We got into a fight one day and he firmly put his hands around my neck and spit in my face. I was so shocked because that was the first time he ever put a hand on me. I should've listened to adice from everyone that it would come to that eventually but I didn't want to believe it. Now that I'm home, I feel stronger to end things with the support of my friends and family, however I'm terrified to tell anyone. I'm scared that nobody will understand. Plus there is that very small part of me that still hopes he will change. I'm scared to start over and don't even know where to begin. I quit my job to be with him and I feel so stupid for doing that when I new he was abusive. Any advice would be much appreciated. How do I get to the point to be strong enough to end it? Why do I keep hoping he'll change? Please help me.
I did leave him. Got both feet on the ground, but came back to him with the hopes of him changing. Plus, we had a baby together, and didn't want to deal with the ugliness of child custody.
I had no contact with him for 6 months, I went through therapy and group. I truly believed I had the tools to return to our marriage.
He amazingly took me back, I miracously was capable to drop all but one charge against him.
The honeymoon stage was great. The forgiveness, the tears, the "I went to the men's group for help". When I moved back to his place 14 months later, the same garbage abuse started, but worse. He takes his anger out on me because HE was arrested. The thing is he got caught, but now, he knows I won't tell, he threatens me and puts fear so I won't leave.... including taking my kids away from me-- he makes me feel like I'm the worst mom in the world.
I was in a great spiritual place when I was away from this man, but now I'm just an empty shell.
It is hard to let go, but give yourself a year apart from him and you'll be on your way.
But you need to get out now! Please, your life is more important than him.
Please keep me posted!