Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My boyfriend has pushed me around and hurt me, busted my mouth open (which that was an accident im sure he didnt mean to make me bleed) but this one night it was terrible.
he was drinking and drunk, he talked to my mom then as soon as she left he told me i was a piece of shit and shouldnt of came over. i got in his car and told him to talk to me when he was ready and he ended walking across the street to his friends house so i got out and followed.
he started making a fool of me in front of his friends so i was shooting shit back at him telling him making himself look stupid that i didnt feel dumb. he kept asking do you feel dumb yet??
then he would hug me then push me away, then start calling me a piece of shit and telling me to go home.. so i started crying and walked back to his house. he ended up locking me out of his house so i sat against his house in his drive way and cried. he came back out and he spit on me then picked me up my the collar of my sweater and pushed me against the brick wall where i got a huge knot.
he kept pushing me to the ground, he kicked me, spit on me, dragged me around, threw me around. then he started to choke me and i thought i was going to die i was so scared. then i started to scream and try to run but he tackled me and put his hand over my mouth and told me to shut the fuck up or he would kill me.
then i get to a tree and he pushes me against it and comes out with a gun and he kept asking me if i wanted to die.
i was afraid i told him please dont kill me.
then i somehow get inside and yelled for his grandma and said jake was hurting me (my boyfriend) she came out and i thought he was going to quit, but when his grandma turned her back he took me back outside and she said she was calling the cops. he said if she called the cops then he would die because he would shoot at them.
after things started to settle i decided to stay at his house for the night and we didnt get to bed till 4 a.m.
we woke up and got into another fight he kept calling me a whore.. and the night this all went down he called me a piece of shit, slut, ugly bitch, skank, whore, cunt and so on... in the morning he told me hes sorry he ever let his ex girlfriend slip through his fingers.. he told me she was way prettier than me and that i was fucking ugly.
he said he cheated on me 12 times..
when he calms down he calls me crying after i went home that hes so sorry and that he thinks im gorgeous he doesnt want his ex because he killed their baby and she treated him like shit, and that shes not that fucking pretty that im way more beautiful.
the worst part of all this is im pregnant and its his..
im afraid to leave but im afraid to stay too..
he promised he would never do it again. i know what he did was terrible. i know what he did wasnt him.
i need some advice. has anyone been through this and their boyfriend/husband stopped doing it when they said they would? or is there no hope?
he was drinking and drunk, he talked to my mom then as soon as she left he told me i was a piece of shit and shouldnt of came over. i got in his car and told him to talk to me when he was ready and he ended walking across the street to his friends house so i got out and followed.
he started making a fool of me in front of his friends so i was shooting shit back at him telling him making himself look stupid that i didnt feel dumb. he kept asking do you feel dumb yet??
then he would hug me then push me away, then start calling me a piece of shit and telling me to go home.. so i started crying and walked back to his house. he ended up locking me out of his house so i sat against his house in his drive way and cried. he came back out and he spit on me then picked me up my the collar of my sweater and pushed me against the brick wall where i got a huge knot.
he kept pushing me to the ground, he kicked me, spit on me, dragged me around, threw me around. then he started to choke me and i thought i was going to die i was so scared. then i started to scream and try to run but he tackled me and put his hand over my mouth and told me to shut the fuck up or he would kill me.
then i get to a tree and he pushes me against it and comes out with a gun and he kept asking me if i wanted to die.
i was afraid i told him please dont kill me.
then i somehow get inside and yelled for his grandma and said jake was hurting me (my boyfriend) she came out and i thought he was going to quit, but when his grandma turned her back he took me back outside and she said she was calling the cops. he said if she called the cops then he would die because he would shoot at them.
after things started to settle i decided to stay at his house for the night and we didnt get to bed till 4 a.m.
we woke up and got into another fight he kept calling me a whore.. and the night this all went down he called me a piece of shit, slut, ugly bitch, skank, whore, cunt and so on... in the morning he told me hes sorry he ever let his ex girlfriend slip through his fingers.. he told me she was way prettier than me and that i was fucking ugly.
he said he cheated on me 12 times..
when he calms down he calls me crying after i went home that hes so sorry and that he thinks im gorgeous he doesnt want his ex because he killed their baby and she treated him like shit, and that shes not that fucking pretty that im way more beautiful.
the worst part of all this is im pregnant and its his..
im afraid to leave but im afraid to stay too..
he promised he would never do it again. i know what he did was terrible. i know what he did wasnt him.
i need some advice. has anyone been through this and their boyfriend/husband stopped doing it when they said they would? or is there no hope?
call the cops on him and get an order against him and never, ever look back.
One day, he will kill you.
Don't learn your lesson the hard way.
Oh and yes it was him...NOBODY else...HIM...Do not make excuses for his lack of respect and shithead behaviour...this is a prelude to your life with this trash...
get out now...while you can
Do you believe that GOD loves you and wants you to go on living?
If you do, GET OUT.
Otherwise, take out a good life insurance policy and give it to your parents.
I'm sorry that you are pregnant with his baby, but believe me you would be doing a great injustice to your baby if you stay with this man.
Blessings and hugs,
Lori
not durning his life time. if he's not degradeing , manipulateing, playing you it will be yet another woman who has her own unresolved issues.
9 1 1 if you dont press charges have the police to do so and obtain a restrining order and lol when for a moment he sweet talks you to try to reel you in tighter so he can get what he wants at your exspence.
Will you let strangers verbally abuse you ? would you let strangers beat you? will dear its no difrent. have his sorry butt arrested and make sure he has a record so next woman he beats wont have it as bad as your having it.
A dear friend of mine husband push her backwards and her back feel against that fire place wall. she was de_ --d befor her body slide down the wall. he didnt hit her he just simply shuved her. Dont take the risk of such that can so easily happen.
Take care of yourself and be good to yourself and for us on DS.
being preg nor having a child prevented guys from wanting to date and have a healthy relationship with her. Haveing been thur what she did with her son bio father she will not tolerate a man disrespecting her in any form.
males are nickle a dozen. Then thier are men who have had man training. And there are man that where raised and learned to be a man.
Dont put up w his crap and stop putting your life at risk.
There are woman who will accept rm mates are woman who will go into gether to rent a place to share. There are men who will lease out thier spare bd rm in exchange for cleaning service. There is state assistance apts that you quilifie for being that you are preg and will be with child --- so go ahead and apply for state assistant apt -- theres userly a waiting list but being that your preg your application wont be placed on the bottom of stack of applications.
you can get furniture from road side, yard sales and salvation army. you can obtain food stamps and wick program. you can even obtain a clothing voucher and obtain 10 or more pc's of clothing from salvation army.
You can obtain counselor at state funded mental health center which offers selection of therapes and pdocs to deal with your own issue and life and they also offer slideing scale fee which is based on your income or lack of income and they also provide transportation for thier clients.
you can apply for public transportation discount.
You can also obtain an atty thur legal aid if you choise to prove the jerk is bio father and your atty can get you sole cusody and make him pay child support and 1/2 the cost of hospital bill for his child and you.
you can ask the billing department for name & ph no. of charity who can assist with your medical bill after you've had your baby. some charitys pay a percentage and hospital Might write the balance off as a lost.
But the percentage that charity service doesnt cover tell your atty so he can get the courts to get your formor jerk to pay the balance.
Am telling you that you have more benifits and services available to you than non preg woman do. Go apply for state apt and food assistant. food assistant you may need photo id your ss card and uility bill and rent recite. if possible get the jerk to write you a rm rental lease where your renting a bd rm in his house ( opps spent night in ft rm w him and opps your preg,right). This will cost him nothing and will get you the care & food that you need for your baby. dont tell him about applying for apt etc... just do what you need to do and take care of yourself and your baby. Am glad that your not going to show and teach and have your child to learn to be sexist and abuseive nor risk the child own life due to physical abuser.
counselor at woman shelter can also tell you of and offer you other services that will assist you.
who knows on your way to food stamp offc or where ever you just might meet some one at coff--e-e bar at convients store or brackfast house who has a spare bd and who will give you copy of thier photo id as safty measure.
You do not half to put up w such crap from anyone.
males no matter of thier age dislike older woman for we can see thur them and they know they cant manipulate us and we wont accept thier sorry lieing butts.
my dogs are danceing at ft door wanting to go out. Please take care and be good to yourself and your child.
If you are, you'll be amongst a very lucky few.
He's fine
He drinks
He hurts you physically or mentally
you stay bec you know he can change since he "loves you"
he drinks
you leave
honeymoon period he calls tells you how much he loves you and he is so sorry for hurting you and the unborn baby
you forgive him
he's ok for a few hours, a few days
then he drinks
then he hurts you physically
Its a cycle you have to GET OUT OF IT
he doesnt drink very often
hes fucking 20 its not like hes an alcoholic.
so seriously theres no point of me telling you my problems because you take it all wrong.... jesus