Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My boyfriend has pushed me around and hurt me, busted my mouth open (which that was an accident im sure he didnt mean to make me bleed) but this one night it was terrible.
he was drinking and drunk, he talked to my mom then as soon as she left he told me i was a piece of shit and shouldnt of came over. i got in his car and told him to talk to me when he was ready and he ended walking across the street to his friends house so i got out and followed.
he started making a fool of me in front of his friends so i was shooting shit back at him telling him making himself look stupid that i didnt feel dumb. he kept asking do you feel dumb yet??
then he would hug me then push me away, then start calling me a piece of shit and telling me to go home.. so i started crying and walked back to his house. he ended up locking me out of his house so i sat against his house in his drive way and cried. he came back out and he spit on me then picked me up my the collar of my sweater and pushed me against the brick wall where i got a huge knot.
he kept pushing me to the ground, he kicked me, spit on me, dragged me around, threw me around. then he started to choke me and i thought i was going to die i was so scared. then i started to scream and try to run but he tackled me and put his hand over my mouth and told me to shut the fuck up or he would kill me.
then i get to a tree and he pushes me against it and comes out with a gun and he kept asking me if i wanted to die.
i was afraid i told him please dont kill me.
then i somehow get inside and yelled for his grandma and said jake was hurting me (my boyfriend) she came out and i thought he was going to quit, but when his grandma turned her back he took me back outside and she said she was calling the cops. he said if she called the cops then he would die because he would shoot at them.
after things started to settle i decided to stay at his house for the night and we didnt get to bed till 4 a.m.
we woke up and got into another fight he kept calling me a whore.. and the night this all went down he called me a piece of shit, slut, ugly bitch, skank, whore, cunt and so on... in the morning he told me hes sorry he ever let his ex girlfriend slip through his fingers.. he told me she was way prettier than me and that i was fucking ugly.
he said he cheated on me 12 times..
when he calms down he calls me crying after i went home that hes so sorry and that he thinks im gorgeous he doesnt want his ex because he killed their baby and she treated him like shit, and that shes not that fucking pretty that im way more beautiful.
the worst part of all this is im pregnant and its his..
im afraid to leave but im afraid to stay too..
he promised he would never do it again. i know what he did was terrible. i know what he did wasnt him.
i need some advice. has anyone been through this and their boyfriend/husband stopped doing it when they said they would? or is there no hope?
he was drinking and drunk, he talked to my mom then as soon as she left he told me i was a piece of shit and shouldnt of came over. i got in his car and told him to talk to me when he was ready and he ended walking across the street to his friends house so i got out and followed.
he started making a fool of me in front of his friends so i was shooting shit back at him telling him making himself look stupid that i didnt feel dumb. he kept asking do you feel dumb yet??
then he would hug me then push me away, then start calling me a piece of shit and telling me to go home.. so i started crying and walked back to his house. he ended up locking me out of his house so i sat against his house in his drive way and cried. he came back out and he spit on me then picked me up my the collar of my sweater and pushed me against the brick wall where i got a huge knot.
he kept pushing me to the ground, he kicked me, spit on me, dragged me around, threw me around. then he started to choke me and i thought i was going to die i was so scared. then i started to scream and try to run but he tackled me and put his hand over my mouth and told me to shut the fuck up or he would kill me.
then i get to a tree and he pushes me against it and comes out with a gun and he kept asking me if i wanted to die.
i was afraid i told him please dont kill me.
then i somehow get inside and yelled for his grandma and said jake was hurting me (my boyfriend) she came out and i thought he was going to quit, but when his grandma turned her back he took me back outside and she said she was calling the cops. he said if she called the cops then he would die because he would shoot at them.
after things started to settle i decided to stay at his house for the night and we didnt get to bed till 4 a.m.
we woke up and got into another fight he kept calling me a whore.. and the night this all went down he called me a piece of shit, slut, ugly bitch, skank, whore, cunt and so on... in the morning he told me hes sorry he ever let his ex girlfriend slip through his fingers.. he told me she was way prettier than me and that i was fucking ugly.
he said he cheated on me 12 times..
when he calms down he calls me crying after i went home that hes so sorry and that he thinks im gorgeous he doesnt want his ex because he killed their baby and she treated him like shit, and that shes not that fucking pretty that im way more beautiful.
the worst part of all this is im pregnant and its his..
im afraid to leave but im afraid to stay too..
he promised he would never do it again. i know what he did was terrible. i know what he did wasnt him.
i need some advice. has anyone been through this and their boyfriend/husband stopped doing it when they said they would? or is there no hope?
He knows you are PREGNANT and he did this, alcohol cannot be an excuse- he beat you all night kept going back for more! When the baby comes it will just get worse not better..
I have read your other posts, he has been verbally abusive over and over to you. That should be enough for you to walk, who the hell is he to call you names? You dont need to be with anyone who treats you bad, you control your destiny. You dont need to make any excuses for him.
How many times has he:
Said something hurtful or physically hurt you and then said he was sorry " I wont do it again"
How many times has he called you a whore? and was he drunk or sober? did he have an "excuse"
I do believe that it's possible for someone to make a single mistake in anger, regret and not repeat it. But that's not what you're describing. This is sustained abuse over a period of time. And if the remose isn't instant when they recognize what they've done, it's not geniune IMHO.
Alcohol doesn't cause abuse or excuse it. It just makes it easier to express. The anger inside him is there drunk or sober and will come out again someday.
The choice is yours, but for the sake of your child you might want to get out before his anger finds another target.
Best of luck to you.