I'm here to support you... we all are... please talk about it!

That's not the answer....we are here to lift you up....talk it out.

Need, you absolutely can do this. Please take it minute by minute. Baby steps. You deserve so much more then he was able to give you. He was slime. He is not even worthy of knowing you in my book.

I would recommend seeing a doctor about your medication. Maybe you need a different or additional med. I'm not trying to push drugs on you...but sometimes it is very necessary to even us out during the really rough spots.

You really are going to fine. It's painful, terribly painful, but we are here for you. Hug that puppy of yours...s/he needs you!

I'm sorry you're in so much pain. I know you just want to escape from the pain, but suicide is not the answer. Life is good. I know it doesn't feel good right now, but it is.

A friend of mine committed suicide some years ago, and I witnessed the incredible damage that it did to her family. Maybe you think it wouldn't hurt your children that much, but trust me, it would.

I would urge you to find somebody, anybody, to talk to. You can try the National Suicide Prevention Line at 1-800-273-8255.

There are some more phone numbers here: http://suicidehotlines.com/

And of course we are here for you. You can talk to us.

Life is worth fighting for!

I know It feels impossible to stand up and take another step sometimes.... but I have learned "minute by minute...." You can do it. There are people here to provide guidance and support. There are people in your community.. You said you are seeing a counselor (I think) keep reaching out....
Even though it does not feel better at this moment....there are momments that can be better..... one minute at a time.

Sending hugs and support

I've been there. Feeling that way is almost overwhelming. But it's not. You have the power to make the choices. And talking to people is another way to relieve that pressure. It works, honest. Talk here, talk to a supportive family member, talk to the suicide hotline folks - they're real friendly and helpful. And they understand.

Try to go one more week, one more day, even one more hour without doing anything you can't undo. You'll want to have tried your best, done everything else available to you, right? Be kind to yourself - chocolate always helps me.

We're here for you.

Please don't leave us honey. You can and WILL do this. Please talk to us. We are ALLLLL here for you unconditionally.

I am a survivor of a parent that took their life, and I was only eight years old when it happened, this is a tuff subject for me, but I feel the need to share. It still haunts me to this day that my father took his life after being abusive for years to my mother and siblings...my mom left him just as you and I have left an abuser, and he made sure he made her aware of exactly what he was doing right before it happened. Taking your life is not the answer! I can totally relate to what your feeling, it is so damn painful, but each day you will feel better, but you have to force yourself to find something you can do to take your mind off of him, the situation. Read lots of books if you cannot walk, when your thoughts go to him/the situation immediately try to change your thought, make a conscious effort to try to think of so etching else when he comes to mind, go to counseling with someone that specializes in abuse, go to a group session with other people that have been through or are going through what you're going through, watch a funny movie, not a love story! I would also consider seeing a doctor for some antidepressants, or something to help with the depression until you can start feeling better. I'm not an expert, and I feel the pain your going through, please don't hurt yourself, give yourself a chance to have a better life, abuse free! Sending you a big hug!

Dear Needafriend,

I have been where you are, I have walked in your shoes... I have a feeling many of us here have. I am not here to try to give you advice or to diminsh the pain that you feel. It is very real and can be all-consuming.

I can share my story, and hopefully it helps you see light at the end of the tunnel. When I ended things with him back in February, the break-up was really bad- the worst it had ever been. He called me names, demeaned my ethics and derided my character. I have always prided myself on being caring and compassionate, of doing the right thing even when it was hard. I am non-judgemental and highly ethical. The reason I am telling you this is because he took everything, EVERYTHING, I stand for and turned it on it's head. He did this because I allowed him to, because I got my sense of self and self-worth from him. When we ended things, I felt like I had nothing left, not even my character or the person I thought I was.

One day, I was out walking my dog, wading through the mud and leaves at a park near my house, when I realized I was planning to kill myself. I had somehow skipped over the questioning phase right into planning. It scared me! But as I sat there in the woods, all I could think of was, it has come to this, so this is how it is going to end... I couldn't believe my life was about to end when I had lived the entire thing trying to please others. My entire life had revolved around other people, and not one day, ONE DAY, had I lived just thinking of myself.

I based everything on what other people would think of me if I did or didn't do something. I tried to imagine what my life would be like if I had lived just doing what I really wanted to do, forget that, if I had just done what made me HAPPY. The thought felt so foreign, so wrong and different from my way of thinking, that it felt like it jusssttt might be right.

I decided then and there that I was going to live from myself, from the core of who I was inside, and I wasn't going to give a damn what anyone else thought. I had tried everyone else's wayy, and now it was time for me to try mine.

I made a deal with myself that I would give it my honest try. I was going to take care of me, and see what happened. That is when my healing took a revolutionary step forward. I was still in an incredible amount of pain, but I started to do what I wanted to do (I would underline this if I could), even if it was just one minute at a time... I am not going to lie... Some times it is one minute at a time, still, but I am alive. Every single time I see another glorious sunset, I am reminded that I would have never seen it if I had followed through my thoughts that day.

We live our entire lives for our abusers, isn't time we live for ourselves?What would yoy do if you could do anything in the world? If nothing held you back? What kind of life would you be living?

It is now a few hours later. I sure hope that you are feeling a bit better about things! As you can see, many care about you. Please care about yourself. This is just a valley in the peaks and valleys of this ride called life on earth as a human being. Give yourself some time, and you will hopefully look back on this evening as just one of the "bad times" in a field of "good times". Please remember that we really are all interconnected, and if you harm yourself, you harm all. Love yourself, and all feel more love. I, for one, could use some more love, so please love yourself for me, eh? {{hugz}}

I don't know your story but I do know that your life is so very valuable and please don't do anything to hurt yourself. You have been hurt enough...please call someone or talk to someone and don't give up.

Please don't do that to your son. He's so young and still needs you. I have a son, age 23... he still needs me too, even though he no longer lives with me. I have had suicidal thoughts during my depressions, but I would not act on them. If this is rock bottom you know it will get better. It always does.

Need, you have a lot of people here who will reach out their hand to you and hold you for a while whilst u go through this.

You don't want to die, you've reached out to is on here! What u want is support and you've got it and will continue to get it in bucket loads here!

My dad committed suicide when I was 16 and I can promise you that it had an absolute MASSIVE effect on me. I've still not really got over it and when I think about it I will always feel the impact that it had on my life. If you have children of your own I can promise you, doing that will effect them and they won't recover from it.

It's not the same as someone just passing away, it's COMPLETELY different. You feel all sorts of emotions, and this is what your family will also feel, believe me it's an impact that will effect all their lives greatly.

I also know the feeling of wanting to just give up myself. I thought about it lots of times. I thought about it a lot through the worse abuse he gave me, I was pregnant at the time with my daughter and my ex abused me overtly every single day, thought that entire pregnancy and I truly felt worthless and that I may as well just not be here. I convinced myself that if I died then the pain would stop. The only reason I didn't was because I had my daughter growing inside my belly and I rationalised "it's really selfish of me to take her life as well" so she pretty much saved my life.

Being where I am now, I'm not depressed, on edge, lonely, lost, anxious, suffering, in emotional pain, despair, beating myself up or sad, I am very peaceful and content. I am no longer these things because NC and time have been my medican and I've got over my emotional illness. And I can absolutely promise you that you can get over this too, in time and in NC.

I've had counselling and had it for over a year and had two different types at the same time! I no longer have any counselling at all. I was ready to move forward when I was ready and you'll be ready when you're ready, there's no set time limit.

Also I must add something. I have two friends who both took an over dose. Both nearly died but thankfully were found in time. One of which I saved. The one I saved had to be revived in hospital and said it was terrifying. The other friend told me all about her experience and she told me.."if you was ever going to commit suivide don't ever take an overdose, it was such a horrific experience, you don't just fall asleep and slip away, you hallucinate, it's like being stuck in a really bad nightmare, when it kicked in I was terrified and it's not a dignified or easy way to go!"

She was also glad as was my other friend that she was saved!

As much as u can only see that this is the answer I can assure you it's not, it's a bad decision and I do hope you trust us on here to ignore those thoughts that tempt you down that path, those thoughts are not the answer!

I am sorry you are going threw so much pain right now and I know how unbearable the pain can be, I have been in that same spot you are in right now thinking it was the worst pain and that it never would go away, Every one told me the pain would go away and I never believed any one, I was convinced the pain would never go away, You really need to talk to some one immediatly when you are feeling this way, They are there because they care, We are here because we care, We have all had that horrible pain and that is how we support each other and get threw it, We have a common bond like sisters and even though none of know each other personaly, I am sure there is a love and closeness that only we can share with each other, We all know the horrible agonizing pain we have all been there, If it were not for my therapist and women in my same situation, I dont know if I would have been here today, I think I heard some one mention you have children, They love you so much, You have no idea, You are there Rock, There Strength to keep going, If they lost you it would totaly crush them and break there little hearts, I know you are hurting but please call some one, If you ever want to talk I am here, We all are here, Please for yourself and every one else call some one and please keep us informed, I am sending you hugs and prayers your way, xx

Please don't give up. Try to shut off your thoughts and just ride it out. It absolutely WILL get better. You don't have to believe that right now, just try to get through the worst of it.