Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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can anyone relate?

jstanicegirl
jstanicegirl
This man is truly making me crazy. Angry all the time...ALL the time. The occasions when he is not it is because he has gotten exactly what he wanted...no matter what the cost to me.
He got mad at me because I got my period!! We hadnt had sex in 2 or 3 days and I had the nerve to get my period!! If I knew it was coming why didnt I have sex with him beforehand??? He feels as if sex is his absolute right and I have no choice in it. If I dare say no there is hell to pay.
He gets angry bout most everything if I dare not agree with him...but mostly its about sex. I have a normal sex drive..but he tells me all the time I am not normal. Why does he not understand how twisted it has become for me. Always knowing that if I dont I will be punished for days. Told i'm destined to lose men...told that I deserve to be cheated on.
Has anyone else dealt with this kind of behaviour?
deleted_user
deleted_user
My first husband, treated me that way too. He would withhold sex from me, all the time, then punish me in every other way he could. It was a systematic way of controlling my every thought and move. It was horrible. You are not alone, and you are not crazy! Keep talking about it, and coming back.
bayrabbit01
bayrabbit01
Hey Jstanicegirl, I can totally relate. My hubby has a problem with rage...and the problem I have with it is when he gets all mad and starts raging, he uses the "N" word (the one that African Americans used to be called) if you know what I mean... It really makes me mad when he uses that particular word because it's not politically correct and I hope he never uses it in the presence of someone of that nationality...it could pose real problems!!

I will add you as a friend and i hope that you will do the same...then I can send you my email address so that we could chat off the board.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Been there many times with my ex husband who was a sex addict. He told me I was worthless, forced himself on me, forced me to have sex with other men and cheated all the time with different women. I would've wanted sex more but he ruined the sanctity of it for me. It was no longer special. And even now it affects me. The man I'm with gets mad bc we don't have sex as often as he'd like. And he is at times very abusive in every way imaginable. I know you all will think I'm stupid bc I went from one abusive man to the next. Neither of them started this way. But why would I wanna have sex with someone who is that awful to me. I'm never gonna be in the mood to have sex when I've been pushed to the edge of insanity. You're not alone. And it's nice to know I'm not either. And that I'm not crazy or abnormal.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Agree .. please find a way to leave.