Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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ltwist 11/14/2013

I can't even begin to believe that I am in a place in my life that I actually need to get really real and say I hate someone. Not just someone...someone that had my heart, my soul, my dream ... and he stomped all over everything. Smashing it to pieces. With no regard...I do, I hate him.

It's just the way I feel.

deleted_user 11/23/2013

giggle here's the link
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/forum/17705405-help-so-angry-and-fed

hockeymom5592 11/23/2013

I think hate serves us when we are at the stage of trying to accept that the person we loved is abusive, self absorbed, hurtful and that none of it was our fault. When the enormity of the lie hits us, we hate. I think we go from hate to anger, they are close cousins, and help us to become proactive in our own lives, compelling us to make changes that will save our lives.

And later, when you have some distance from your abuser, you will let it go. Because holding on to hate and anger, don't forget, is like taking poison and thinking the other guy is going to die.

Use it, don't become obsessed with it. Let it drive you to fight the good fight. And then, let it go.

deleted_user 11/29/2013

Itwist.. I can soooo relate. I HATE my husband to and I am not a hateful person. I don't hate him as a person, I hate the things that he has done and he does not own up to what he is done.. he blames me for his financial mess - he blames his childhood for being abusive to me years ago.. I told him that is no excuse. I am in counseling thank goodness and I am in the healing process which is HARD and PAINFUL. But I have no doubt, I will get pass this.

BooClouds 11/29/2013

I agree that hate is a part of healing and have gone through the motions as well....sometimes swinging back and forth until I am ready to move on.

deleted_user 11/29/2013

Hate is a very normal feeling to have after we leave our abusers...In time. however, you will learn how to put this negative energy into positive energy into helping yourself. You are doing really well, you are not alone.

AndreaBEE 11/29/2013

Have been feeling the same way since the Holiday started. How dare HE. The Christmas music on the car radio got me today and I have been feeling generally irritated with him the last few days. Good for me. How dare someone claiming love do this. Because, this is what abusers do. And, deep down he knows he did it. Good. I hope he had a miserable Thanksgiving. I had a really good one. (BTW I know that's not nice to say.)

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