In my opinion, bpd never goes away BUT it can be managed to the point of being nearly non-existent. My bpd is pretty much all day every day the mood swings are so violent but I was in a place at one point where it eased off a little.

I am just trying the mindfulness exercises and meditation. My bpd seems to go in cycles which makes me think there is some bipolar, I do pretty well when I am feeling somewhat normal but it really is much harder to do when I am in a down cycle which is about every few weeks. Very frustrating I know.

Flowerbud, it's an interesting question. Try mapping out your moods for the next couple of days to see whether this might just be an occasional "episode" (which i think would be a bit like "normal") or whether it seems to be occurring more than you'd like, and following the same ol' patterns...

I have no idea. I'm still just coming to grips with the likely possibility that I have BPD, so I'm still trying to learn what it all means.

I have co-existing problems (panic disorder,depression) but my BPD tends to cycle every 3-4 years depending on the trigger. Medication helps a lot. When I was a teen/early 20's it was more like every 1-2 years. Typically lasts for a couple months. Talking helps a lot.

Hi Flower bud,

Yeah, I have also often wondered if BPD really goes away...
My doc said it depends on how well one takes care of it and learns and does all one can to keep it at a minimum level....
but as i have experienced it is frustrating..... especially it seems so much of a constant battle with one's ownself- whether it is ones body, personality or historical baggage.
Something that helps me is learning new things ... and be super aware of my motives and being....... the more i can have access to deepest thoughts and patterns, the easier it is to manage anxieties and fears that stem from them ....
Discipline!!!!! i just acnt seem to get around it , though i am working on that... the doc said when forces tend to make you unpredictable, it helps to have neat structures and cycles of discipline to train your body to fight.
Mindfulness practices sure helped me a lot- especially this site- tarabrach.com----- since it addresses emotional as well as biological processes and therefore one can make shifts which are more organic....
i also discovered recently that i have several narcissistic traits and have a tendency of getting embroiled in my own thoughts and preoccupations with myself and cant really reach out to a world outside of me... but being critical of my habits has helped calm down earlier anxieties....
From what I have experienced in the last two years, I feel it is a very very tricky process but I feel one can be quite hopeful for it is worth fighting the very many layers and finding out what there is ...
Have I said to much!!!!!
Sorry, I think your question was rather simple.... but just wanted to put out there my experience in terms of addressing this question personally and feeling that yeah---- there is this mythic finish line it seems !! but imagine if one could reach it... :)....
my clycle of real badd panic situations have been once in every 4-5 years....
depression and anxiety generally can be between once in a month to less than that.....
it depends proportionally to situation, period cycles, and general biochemistry cycles.... ....
One could therefore keep working on personality issues.... know what ones triggers are and how to overcome it....
and keeping a mood chart should help in knowing ones bodily patterns....

I hear it goes away when you're middle aged, then again you hear the symptoms ease, I have the impulsive one everyday, I'm getting over the mood swings, which is probably the worst beside self harm/ suicide ideas etc.

Full disclosure- I'm a minor so my BPD is considered to still be developing and I have not been diagnosed with it. I'm working with my therapist to keep it from becoming full-fledged BPD, however I experience all the symptoms very strongly and often wonder if it has developed more than my therapist thinks.

It is constant for me. All day every day. If it's not mood swings, it's being irrational, or splitting, or going through derealization or depersonalization, etc. etc. Medication had helped to settle it a bit, but I have a long way to go until I no longer exhibit al these traits so intensely.

Razor, I wish to goodness it goes away in middle age. having just entered middle age (I guess, officially) sad to say that, in my case, it seems to still be here. that said, it took forever to diagnose and i still haven't been strictly identified as such. My pdoc just sort of mumbles something about "axis II" which i happen to know is code for "i don't want to tell you that you have BPD...especially since you've been going along all this time..." But he also mumbles about my bipolar d/o as well. i'm complicated, I know. But listen, the "wisdom" and painful awakenings of mid-life (what some folks call mid-life crisis, but it doesn't HAVE to be a "crisis") can help us in really acknowledging and better coping with/managing our emotions and tendencies. I guess that's maybe good news.

Mine only rears its ugly head when in a romantic relationship :(

I have never been formally diagnosed with BPD. But, I have had some pretty freaky episodes over the years. The first 20 something years of my life were pretty darn rough being motherless and then being raised by a narcissistic father. That really messed me up. However, therapy has kept me on track when things started to spiral out of control. I have been on antidepressants as well...and they were wonderful and kept me balanced. I miss Zoloft sometimes.

Being a parent has been very trying for me....not the actual parenting part but the part where I have to be forced into the world of other parents. My kids have nice friends but wow, their parents have been absolutely hellish at times and that has taken a huge toll on my life. I feel trapped between keeping my kids happy and by remaining neutral with parents I do not care for. There is just no escape.

I make sure I get outside every day for a good brisk walk. Meditation has been good and my new yoga class is starting to make me feel human again. I try my best to stick with clean eating but am also considering adding in some herbal supplements to help keep me balanced and calm when I need it. Focusing on myself helps keep me from becoming unraveled. I have to remind myself that I need to come first in order to take care of those around me as best I can.