Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group

This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !

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Brokenmother 09/11/2016

My 14 year old daughter has disclosed to me that she was sexualy abused by my husband (her step father) between the ages of 8 and 10. We are no longer together and I have called the police and pressed charges. She has been interviewed and we are waiting to hear if he will be prosecuted. I feel so guilty and I just want to die. It all happened in my bed when I was working night shifts. I haven't been back to work since hearing the news. I don't feel like I can go back. I just can't comprehend the world just going on as if everything is normal while our whole life has fallen apart. I go from feeling suicidal to numb. I can hardly get out of bed most days. Is there anyone that has a similar experience? I don't see how anything can ever be the same after finding out this news.

Brokenmother 09/14/2016

Before I found out we were in the process of reconciling. We're still married. He texted me all day today. I changed my number

Naive1.2 09/14/2016

Oh, I am SO glad you're out of the country. That's a huge source of protection. If he is convicted, I would ask your attorney to be sure your husband's name is added to the "no-fly" list in the States. Registered sex offenders are among the terrorists who "live" on that list.

Brokenmother 09/15/2016

I'm so scared there won't be enough evidence as it was almost 4 years ago. I just really want him to be punished for what he had done

Naive1.2 09/15/2016

Physical evidence, maybe not, but good investigators will check his computer files and phone to discover a stash of child porn, almost inevitably. Also, your daughter is almost certainly not his only victim. Older research (not sure if it holds up) showed that 9 is the median age for victims, with 13 often being the oldest. I'm going to guess (only) and say that abusers lose interest in children's bodies as they get big enough to fight back. Also, as they begin to develop sexually -- suddenly not as desirable, in their way of thinking. Ex almost certainly moved on to someone younger. Any other young girls he was/is in contact with regularly?

Brokenmother 09/16/2016

He had been in the past. I'm sure she wasn't his first victim but I don't know if the others would ever step forward they are grown women now but still love him and call him dad

hurtingmom 09/16/2016

I know how you feel....it takes over your feelings, and worms its way into every aspect of your life. I though I would feel better when the man who molested my twins was arrested, but it actually made me feel worse. Seeing him in court in his prison jumpsuit made it all "real" as opposed to surreal. Until he was arrested, I couldn't even let myself feel anything. It was about two months from the time I became aware of the molestation until the arrest. At least now I don't have to worry about running into him somewhere. We have to remain strong for our kids. Also, don't let him win by destroying your life.

Brokenmother 09/16/2016

My daughter is so depressed today. I feel so helpless. There's nothing I can do for her

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