My daughter has not been evaluated but my nephew has. And I had to talk his mom into it.

First off, regardless of the outcome, there is NOTHING wrong with your son, just something different. And different can be wonderful.

We are Canadian and the process may be different. All they did for my nephew was talk to him, have him draw a picture, get him to play with blocks and talk some more. The conclusion? He has to be tested again before age 5. He is only 4 now.

Don't stress too much, it will rub off on him, and could cause averse reactions. Good luck!

Thank you for your response Jolene, it means a lot.
I'm sure I am looking too far into it, I just don't want him to have a "label" put on him, you know? Sometimes it seems hard for people do get past the fact that someone is "this" or "that".
Anyways, this is for him and I think it could benefit him. I may also wait and let him try out public school next year because there will be a lot more resources there.
Again, thank you!

I do know how you feel. My daughter is 4 in August. She can write half her alphabet, spell words like mom, dad, april, cat, and no. But when it comes to numbers I feel like there isn't something clicking. She is young lol so I keep telling myself it's nothing, but she won't count past 6, she won't learn, she doesn't want to write numbers. As well she panics in crowds bigger then five people. Hanging off me, constantly kissing and hugging me and crying if someone looks at her wrong. We looked at preschool briefly but I run a dayhome so we decided against it, plus the stress of the crowd will terrify her. Not looking forward to public school :(

The stress in todays world for children to perform like small adults is insane, and it's pressed into the parents mind for a very long time until you start to feel like there is something wrong with your child for being....well.....a child.

My son is 4 and we were told by our preschool to have him evaluated. We did and there was nothing that he qualified for (from the free service from the state that you go through first).

He is a younger kid in the class -summer birthday boy -that probably has the same kind of energy as your child.

It was a very difficult time for me...please know that the services can really help if they are needed but in many cases they are not needed at all.

No one wants boys to be boys anymore...

My son was evaluated just before he turned 2. He wasn't talking at all. He was just babbling. He qualified for speech and occupational therapy. And he also goes to a play group twice a week. Its through a place called Bright Start. It's all payed for through the county we live in. The play group has been wonderful for my son! It's run just like a preschool. They do crafts, circle time, free play and snack time. It's two hrs long twice a week. I'm so glad we started this early. My son gets speech twice a week for a hour each time. And it has done wonders for him. He is saying more and more words every day. The occupational therapy is for him to work on his fine motor skills and sensory skills. It has been a year now and he is doing great. He will be three in about a week. My son is a very happy smart little boy. He just needed a little extra help. This has nothing to do with you being a bad mom. Your a great mom and your son might just need a little extra help. So you might want to look around and see if where you live has any programs like this. It can't hurt to look and see. If you have any questions or want to chat just message me :)

I just went through the exact same thing...we had our child evaluated and he did not qualify for any of the programs.

I think certainly the programs can be helpful for many reasons, but a lot of times schools get frustrated with active young boys.

They are still trying to figure everything out...we have decided to keep our son out of K for another year (he is a summer birthday where he just turned 5) to give him a little bit of time to continue to grow.

Every case is different, but I do so know how hard this was for us to go through...the school did a horrible job of presenting this to us.

I have a similar story. The preschool wanted my 2.5 yo evaluated pretty much for being active and not listening well. I felt the same as you, very shocked that someone could even think there's something wrong with him. I know for sure he's just a free spirit and we're not very strict on rules in our house, and he's the youngest one so he gets a lot of allowance from everyone. I asked the school to give me a list of issues they found in writing because I figured that when we go for evaluation all I can tell to the doctor is "I think he's just fine" and that won't help. Since I asked this the school has backed off and they are now saying he's doing much better, still needs some work to learn how to listen but he's much improved. So I'd say that most times when they see a bright, active kid they tend to jump to conclusion that something's wrong. Some kids are just not as submissive to authority as others, and they are a challenge, but I think that's a habit to change and there's nothing wrong with their perception of things or ability to listen. My son can very well listen when he wants to :)

Here is an interesting article...


http://ideas.time.com/2013/08/19/school-has-become-too-hostile-to-boys/?hpt=hp_bn18