Parenting Big Kids (5-8) Support Group
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My daughter told me today that she started what she calls a "goth" group in her school class. Should I be concerned? She said you have an appreciation for the color black and that you're supposed to like the idea of death and dying but she's not into that. Thank God. I don't know what to do besides tell the husband. I told her that if she keeps this goth idea up that I am going to ground her from her laptop and that I will tell don her 11 year old friend is a bad influence on her because she mentioned her friend is into this goth idea too.....BUT she goes and says that her friend Let's say J for anonymity purposes that it indeed is the step daughter "R" that is influenced her to act this way and wants to wear all of her "black clothes" to school tomorrow. I am not sure what she has that's black besides an underwear and bra......I thought buying them for her was harmless until I noticed that she's trying to have this attitude of being Goth. What do you all think? Is it worth trying to punish her over???
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
I mean I guess to some extent if it is not hurting anyone, why bother, confrontation with parents almost seems inevitable with girls, but I guess I think I would let her know I am not a fan of the trend myself, but that so long as she is open about what is going on in her life she could dress how she choose.
If she feels she has to hide everything from you you may find you do not get the info that can flag a problem before it gets out of hand...
Just my opinion, I guess it really depends on how this group operates, the goth kids around here just sit around wearing black and talking about sad stuff, and trying very hard to be different. As if being a part of a trend makes you different. I kind of think they are just looking to shock there poor grandparents.
If these kids are actually DOING something dangerous I guess I would have to get creative in trying to keep my kid away, but I think these kids are just talking, curious...
My mom only once forbade me from hanging out with someone and honestly, that girl was the one person I wanted to hang out with from there on in. On the other hand I dressed like a gangster for a bit and got bored of it without ever hearing anything but laughter from my mom (in all fairness I weighted all of 95 lbs in high school I was not scaring anyone).
Then again I was much older when these issues came up, so I guess the reaction may have just been a teenage girl thing.
Keep the communication line open! And if you feel strongly about this which you seem too, I'd really talk to the hubby until he realizes what you mean..he may even have to wait and see her behavior changes before he realizes.