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I don't know if this is appropiate, but I need advice from overweight people.
There is a stereotype that fat girls are easier to get because they are desperate, no guys want them.
Well, some guys are talking dirty to me. And at first, I was disgusted, but now I'm like "hey maybe i am hot to them"
I'm 21. It's standard to party and experience. I tried all that without the sex.
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20. I was hanging out with these loose girls that had sex all the time.
I always had trouble with friends. I attract bad people because I'm weak(or I used to be, rather)
Well, they were fat and they still pulled guys.
They would make fun of me because I was a virgin,and a "prude"
I was raised by my grandma through the phone(she lived in another state and my mom is a little messed up)
and she taught me morals.
Again, I was desperate for friends after I graduated. I was unpopular in my new high school for being "different"
It was a catholic school, and I was agnostic at the time.
I don't regret going there. I met my batty boy, Steven, and he's been great for me.
Anyway, that's where the stereotype of fat girls being easy really got to me.
I lost my virginity just last year, at a late age of 20!
Since then, I've been wanting more sex.
It makes me feel...gross. But, it's natural right?
I practically threw myself at my guy friend, and he said "we'll see if anything happens. " and "Was I supposed to say yes"
GOD! HOW STUPID OF ME because I have all these new found hormones.
After that, I decided to stray from sex...but then I let my friend who had a crush on me...do sex stuff.
Am I a slut? Oh, god ! I AM!
I just want to feel wanted, and sexy.
Anyway, feel free to call me a big FAT slut.
I am.
My self esteem is so low, I need an increase in my prozac(i'm bipolar)
What should I do?
There is a stereotype that fat girls are easier to get because they are desperate, no guys want them.
Well, some guys are talking dirty to me. And at first, I was disgusted, but now I'm like "hey maybe i am hot to them"
I'm 21. It's standard to party and experience. I tried all that without the sex.
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20. I was hanging out with these loose girls that had sex all the time.
I always had trouble with friends. I attract bad people because I'm weak(or I used to be, rather)
Well, they were fat and they still pulled guys.
They would make fun of me because I was a virgin,and a "prude"
I was raised by my grandma through the phone(she lived in another state and my mom is a little messed up)
and she taught me morals.
Again, I was desperate for friends after I graduated. I was unpopular in my new high school for being "different"
It was a catholic school, and I was agnostic at the time.
I don't regret going there. I met my batty boy, Steven, and he's been great for me.
Anyway, that's where the stereotype of fat girls being easy really got to me.
I lost my virginity just last year, at a late age of 20!
Since then, I've been wanting more sex.
It makes me feel...gross. But, it's natural right?
I practically threw myself at my guy friend, and he said "we'll see if anything happens. " and "Was I supposed to say yes"
GOD! HOW STUPID OF ME because I have all these new found hormones.
After that, I decided to stray from sex...but then I let my friend who had a crush on me...do sex stuff.
Am I a slut? Oh, god ! I AM!
I just want to feel wanted, and sexy.
Anyway, feel free to call me a big FAT slut.
I am.
My self esteem is so low, I need an increase in my prozac(i'm bipolar)
What should I do?
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You have all these new thoughts and feelings and you are a bit confused, a therapist can help you with that. If you want to sleep around, there is nothing wrong with that, but if you think of yourself as a slut for doing it, then it is wrong. A therapist can help you with your self esteem issues and help you get to a better place. Having sex and wanting sex is natural, so is wanting to experiement with different things and different people but if you feel bad about yourself after you should seek the help of a professional. Everyone, fat or thin, wants to feel sexy, wanted and loved, that is normal but you wont get that from one night stands. You can only get that through a loving, committed relationship.
I also have been on lamictal for bipolar, did fine on it, and lexapro for depression, lost a bunch of weight on it but when I lost my insurance and had to go on medicaid I had to switch to zoloft because medicaid doesn't cover lexapro.
@texwriter, I know. And people say I'm not even THAT fat. Thank you for your advice
@serentitys, I know I should take time.But I'll still keep that in mind.
@minhiding, I've been on seroquel for depression,risperdal and topemax. But, I've been on lamictal, invega, prozac and activan . I just got on activan, and they said it'll help me lose weight...so hopefully
@Becaboo! thanks for the reply! I'll keep that in mind.
I love this support group! it does woners!
I would say for the time being don't throw yourself at anyone. First of all you need to work on your self esteem and all these new feelings and sensations. And, ahem, there are other ways to get rid of these feelings all on your own.
Lets c. According to my Bible/One n only true Bible: King James.
Men not woman r whores.
I do not believe in double standard like the mass of world does.
People are also taugh to have wrong veiw of thier body's.
Having said/wrote that I will say that in my life time I have noted that fat woman have cute faces n r easy. yes they are more incline to do what some will not. It also saddens me that also applys to those who are disabled n those who have low self esteem n have been mostly mentally abused.
My goal plan was to get married in my 40tys. I got married when I was 28. 1t time I ever had sex.
I was taugh not to let others difine who I am.
If you have/do allow others to difine who u r, will,if needed n u opt, re teach yourself to become whole, as in not 1/2 a person but to become a whole person.
Have u heard people say that thier mate is thier other half of thier own being. That is how they were taught to be 1/2 not whole person.
Oh by the way thier is nothing wrong w haveing a mental illness. Those who do did not get dress n go to store n select an illness to buy n have.
I was taught that mass morgority of socity is liken to heard of cattle.
anywho mass morgority r un edu n r not P-Dr P-nurse but they think that they know just enough to be an know it all.
Remember people pick on others inorder to feel better about them self.
Now dear. regarding weigh diet life style of what to buy n life style of healthy life style for life time is process n learning process w trails/error also w knowledge to know that it's ok to have slips.
We are here for each other n for you too.
Welcome to our online DS weight group familey.
Looking forward to your post n replys ...
You deserve better.
Don't put up w crap. you don't half to n shouldn't.
X
Lots of thin women are easy, too! It is more a product of low self-esteem than weight. But fat women get pushed into so many negative stereotypes. This "easy" stuff is just one more way to put us down.
Sex is supposed to make us feel good. If you're having sex and being "used", that will only make you feel bad. You have the right to choose to say no, if it doesn't feel right.
Don't cheapen yourself. Make a guy get to know you first and have something to offer you. I don't mean money. I mean his time, his affection, his respect.