I am fat and I feel fat so I can relate. I don't even know what a sex drive is. Between the weight and the mood stabilizers and ADs I've managed to become as big as a house (321 today) and have no self esteem and my most recent side effect is that I have lost at least half of my previously beautiful hair.

I'd check with your doc to see how long it takes for the meds to get out of your system. Some that I've been on take even longer than a month. Try to be patient with yourself and I hope your husband is kind enough to be patient with you. Sex drive isn't something we can just flip on and off when we want to so I'm thinking you probably just need a little more time. Also did you stop your meds yourself because of this or did you come down off of them w/your doc? Be honest with your doctor about stopping them. If you aren't comfortable talking to him/her maybe you could see someone else that you are. They can't help if they don't know what is really going on.

I wish you felt better and could enjoy being a wonderful 183!!! I'd trade with you in a heartbeat except I wouldn't wish this body on anyone.

I really hope you feel better soon!!! Take care of yourself. XOXO

y pdoc said that the geodon I used to take because I thought it was the problem with my sex drive wouldn't take to long to get out of my system and I was taking that for a year. I assume the wellbutrin 100 mg and abilify 15 mg I was taking wouldn't take long to get out of my system. I love my pdoc now and am afraid of telling her I don't take anything. I know she will be mad at me. She told me that my sex drive problem was all in my head when porn was working for me, now that doesn't even work anymore. She switched me to abilify for my bipolar and kept me on the wellbutrin for my depression but I am not depressed anymore. I started up my exercise videos today to see if it makes a difference.....my hubby told me he thinks my sex drive left because I am not as active as I used to be. He said when I was active I was the energizer bunny I could keep going and going. I feel fat and ugly. I think part of it could be self esteem issues, but I don't know how to change or to feel better about myself. I don't want a new pdoc because I don't want them to put me on any meds that could possibly make my sex dive or lack there of worse. I am besides myself with what to do.

Thanks for the encouragement!

While I don't encourage stopping ssri's on your own...they do have a nasty side effect of decreased libido and difficulty with achieving the Big O, if you will. Having said that, I stopped my Zoloft a few years ago myself...I titrated myself off so not to rebound. Be careful, this may still happen.

I do agree that a more active lifestyle may help with your libido. You'll feel better physically and mentally, so this will boost your spirits all the way around. You'll feel better about yourself because you'll notice a difference in your body, hence, feeling sexier.

Good luck...on both counts:)

My husband and I just bought this book. Position Sex Bible. It really has stirred up our sex life.

I found that even when we did have sex I was not really into it. This book has got me back into it.

Thanks for the comments. I think I am going to see if my husband will buy that book. It might help me get back into the swing of things then maybe if I get more active my husband might be right.....

I suggested the book to my husband and he won't buy it for me he said he'd hate to buy it then have me be discouraged if I couldn't do the positions because of my big fat gut........now I am even more sad.

Perhaps your libido is because of your lack of self esteem. I think that the more you move, the more energy you have. It could also help with the depression. If you feel sad that you are fat, you don't feel sexy. If you could manage to do something about your weight, maybe it will help you feel better about yourself and about having sex with your husband. Please be careful about going off you meds without supervision.

I think my low self esteem due to my weight problem might have some influence in how much sex I have too. Thanks for the advice.

2 things.
Thing 1. Wellbutrin KILLED my sex drive. Plus when I went off w/my docs help it took soooo long for it to come back.

Thing 2. Do you think your husband talking about your "big fat gut" could have anything to do with it? OMG! What kind of thing is that to say to you especially when you are trying so hard to help satisfy him??? I think a little support would help more than hearing negative things about your body!

Let me throw in a thing 3...I know you don't want to but I still really think you should be honest w/your doc. They are there to help you. It isn't like they are doing it for free so they better not be judging you but looking out for your best interest and this is a serious issue! Maybe you should see your regular doc just to check you out and make sure everything is physically okay. Even though that sucks more than the pdoc!!! At least in my opinion lol :)

I'm really sorry you are going through this. I know it isn't easy. Hang in there!!!

I have one suggestion. Get back on your meds before it is too late. My brother is by polar, his doctor took him off of his medication he had been on for more than 30 years and put him on another medication. It took three months before he was acting by polar again. He ended up in the Hospital with an overdose of medication when he tried to start taking the same medication he had been on. He was in intensive care for a month than he had to stay in the hospital till they got his medication straightened out. Then he had to stay at a Rehab center for 3 month because the new medication was making his leg shake. And in my opion he still is not acting the same.

Sorry the book thing didn't pan out. My gut is bigger and we work it out. I hope you told your husband not to say stuff like that again or you might give him walking papers. Thats abuse.