I agree miss. I have seen more judgement and just plain meaness here lately...by one particular person.

I just find it hard to wrap my head around the idea that you can't mention weight loss or ask for healthy options here. We all struggle with so many things when there is a weight issue. So, then you make someone feel even worse by trying to make them feel unwelcome? I can tell you, that hurts WAY worse than merely disareeing with my opinion.

I think, caru, if YOU aren't getting what YOU need, then YOU my friend are the one who should leave. This gruop has been tuned into a ridiculous mess. And now, a lot of US have been relegated to private messaging...so not to be publicly chastized. That's just not right. So in your quest to make this a "safe" place...it seems you've done quite the opposite.

This is, just my opnion.

I'm "morbidly" obese. Whatever that's meant to mean.

i personally feel if u were obese or still are u can defenitely go ahead and comment here. We love the great energy, sob stories, and encourage that most have to offer. We arent here to give diet tips! we're here to give our support because lets face it, if u havent been there and done it we really dont want to hear it.
It a shame that u would post this message and it seems to me that u are holding some kind of grudge maybe u were upset at someone else and decided that this was ur release?
If we all stayed on this forum its because we have made good friends and have found SUPPORT. not tips to lose 5lbs. The majority here have a long journey including myself or they have gone thru it. so let it be...

Prayers go out to each of u, in all ur weight loss goals.

Jeke
Start: 254
Current: 249

I weigh 236 and consider that obese. Ht 5'6 but according to the doctor i should be around 160 for good health. I am losing very slowly but I do have my ups and downs. I get alot of encouragement from this site and hope I give some as well. I must say though all the replies are not encouragements but I try to igmore those. I know what you mean Caruth. I have wondered the same thing at times. Good luck to all

At 293 pounds, yes I am obese, but I am hoping to lose weight. This support group is helpful to me and I don't think that switching groups would make it more or less so.

I wish there were a group for like 100+ pounds to lose or something for anyone who may be intimidated about sharing morbid obesity kinds of issues, maybe. This seems to be the closest thing to that, and I am new here, so I hope this group will not feel uncomfortable. I dont know the history going on here, but it sounds like heavier people here might be feeling inundated or self-conscious because there are a lot of ppl here who give advice who have no experience being as bad off...?

With regard to people who who used to be heavy but arent anymore... I think those people should stay here as long as we can have them! They understand what I'm going through because they've been there themselves AND they figured out some way of losing their weight!

I dont know where the cutoff is for "obesity", but I would imagine, if you are someone who doesn't have very much experience with being overweight (ie, highest weight ever was still relatively normal) then if you want to hang out on this site, maybe that person could be extra sensitive about giving really strong advice/opinions since they may not know the full position someone heavier finds themselves dealing with.

I know that before I got really heavy, I was just semi-overweight and I had no clue how disabling and discouraging it actually becomes. Being morbidly obese isnt just being fat-- you are also overwhelmed by what are otherwise routine daily things... things that someone who just isnt at their ideal weight has no clue about having to deal with.

Well, I used to be morbidly obese (about 8 years ago). Then, I lost 130 pounds (took me two years).

I gained back 50. Lost 45, and darned if I didn't mess up and gain back 20. Now, I'm trying again.

I am obese. 5'8" and 265lbs. i may actually have technically hit morbidly obese but I thought part of the support I got here involved weight management and loss as well as just some place to vent to or sob to. really, i don't see what the problem is.

I joined this group because it was a relief to be with people who totally understand what it's like to be obese. It felt like a safe place to hang out.
Caruth, you are hurting people. The helpless rage you feel about your own weight problem will not be eased by projecting it on to other people. I hope you are able to receive counselling, somewhere you can unburden yourself, someone who can hear your pain.
I wish you the very best of everything. Love and hugs to you.

I think anyone who ever was or is obese should be here! Even after you lose the weight, you're spending the rest of your life trying to maintain that weight loss...everyone could use support for that! Plus, it's the formerly obese that are role models for the rest of us struggling with weight issues. Oh, and, btw, just because the weight comes off, doesn't mean the emotional bullshit just disappears too. O personally, am obese. I have been all my life and I get the most inspiration from people who have lost all their weight and are helping others to do the same!

hey - the more the merrier, I say. It's a support group!

i don't think it matters whether you are .....'20 or 200 pounds or more' over your 'ideal weight'! and...it shouldn't matter if you 'are'.... 'were' or...' are afraid of'..... becoming obese! being over weight is a very personal thing! for some.....it's a major deal.... even if they are only ten pounds over their desired weight! for other's....that weight may be much more than just a mere ten pounds! a person doesn't just go by what 'society says' is obese (bmi, body type, weight, etc.)! i am here b/c......i am twice the woman i should be and....twice the woman i used to be!! i am here.... b/c i need help! i need the support from my friends here at d.s! (be it diet advice or exercise advice or whatever!) i am willing to hear from anyone who can help me in my journey to lose this excess weight no matter what they 'do weigh'...or 'used to' weigh! to me.... obesity and diet/ weight management.... go together like hand and glove!

I am obese, I currently weigh 268 and I am 5'11 so what if i am tall, I am overweight and considered to be obese because i weigh more than 100 lbs more than i am supposed to. I am supposed to be 160. I don't think it matters whether you are obese or not, if you are having self esteem issues dealing with feeling obese then you might belong here. Who knows though.

Hi,

I have been called morbid obese. Its an ugly term but medically thats what they call my condition. I have Polycystic Ovarian syndrome which fights me every step of the way. Today the doctor told me to get the bypass surgery ASAP! I don't know that the surgery is for me.

I haven't read all the comments yet... but I'm here because I need help... Yeah I diet... I try to exercise, I have disablities that make it difficult to walk or ride a bike... I weight 400 pound for pete sake... Untill 2005 the most I ever weighted was 210 I felt good at 210, weight wise... I'm 6'1", never weighted more than 180 most my adult life... worked hard ate like a horse, stayed thin... then the disability , the meds, and Quit smokin... now I bounce up and down 6to ten pounds a day... know it water... Why... then I get depressed and eat... (which I've been cutting down the portions...) but hey... I've gone from 32 to 48, then 67 inches around the waist... I got a pontica butt... then I reached a all time high


450 pounds... developed chronic heart failure... lost 100 lbs... lost 13 to 14 inches around the waist... but I'm gainin back the weight.... Diets aint workin...what am I suppose to do....

I'm lonely, depressed, don't even have much of a reason to try... but I keep on tryin to find a reason... any advice i can use will help