haha , never came down and made jokes.

sorry! omg, i thought i proofread that!

5 foot 2 inches tall, weight is 267, 'should be' 135, New to this group. I understand the question, fully! I was at a place years ago where I needed to lose 10-15-20-30 pounds it isn't the same thing as needing to lose over half my size. When I see someone in person who says omg I'm so fat I need to lose weight, and they are the size I can only dream about, I just want to go through them. Sorry, but to me there is a huge difference.

I am 5'2 and weigh 222 but I am prego, but before I got prego I weighed 190, my bmi stated I was obese...I always considered myself overwieght but since then I guess I am obese!

I still maintain my position, that you don't have to be obese by someone else's standards to offer support to people who need it. My BMI was 30 at my heaviest, but I did n't have 100 pounds to lose. I just don't think those of us who aren't obese should be kicked in the shins for that. I want nothing more than to receive support in my times of need and to offer support to others who need it...regardless how much I weigh.

well I am and I don't like it, but I'm slowly evicting those excess pounds

i am deffinatly obeese. this is the most ive ever weighed, even wene i was pregnant... yes i would love to loose wieght so i could walk and breath, etc. i just dont understand. thought this was for over weight people. that is me...

wow this post isn't very nice.

anybody can join. we're all trying to lose weight fat or not, many ppl here whom aren't obese maybe just maybe can shed some light and a hand to those having a hard time or frustrated.

GOD some peoples kids

Prfctly, there is a weight loss group. It's called "Diets and Weight Maintenance". that is where you need to go for losing weight. this group is called "Obesity". The reason I even asked is because there were people posting very rude comments to those of us who are truly obese and I assure you I am not the only one who was getting tired of being talked down to by those who are not. And not everyone here is focusing on losing weight, most are here for emotional healing. Thank You!

well I haven't seen any of these comments.

so report them and block.

that'd be a first step in emotional healing.


I was morbidly obese and not just "obese" on the BMI charts and I personally love reading some of these people's advice on here who either aren't but trying to lose a few or that once were. I know when I drop all my weight I'll stay here and help anyone who needs it. weight loss is an emotional process just like anything else... you gotta be ready for it and determined to jump in there and do it and these people are just an extra push :)

I am new to Group! I weigh 255 and I am 5'9 I wear a size 22, I also have PCOS, and although I am not Diabetic now I have sugar ups and downs, I am a mother and a wife in a busy world, and do not always have the money to buy all the healthy things I should, I buy quick fast and in a hurry. I am looking for ways to change that and change the outlook on food in my house to a positive one, I am a binge eater I eat when I am stressed, I was taught as a child there are starving people in AFRICA, and to NOT waste a thing on my plate, alos going back for seconds is my problem, eating till i make myself sick at times just for "want" not "need".. looking for friends & recipes to fit into my lifestyle!! :p

i am in total shock and hurt at some of the talk going on in here...

I guess I am expected not to talk about the issues surrounding my attempt to lose weight, but expected to share my emotional struggles... but my emotional struggles happen to be about being obese and trying to lose weight... I don't know how to seperate the two issues.

Guess this is not the type of SUPPORT group I was looking for... I will leave the group and never talk about weight loss here again.

Everyone here has a personal definition of obesity. There are some who were skinny and now struggles with their weight and others who were obese all their lives and remember every cruel word that tore at their self esteem, and need support.

For example, I was always a size five, six until I had my son at 24 and struggled ever since. I am 220. I have yo-yoed like everyone else. i will consider myself obese until I get back to where I was at my smallest. My sister has been overweight since childhood. her smallest was a size 14. she is well beyond that now and all she wants is to be back at a size 14 and she would be happy again.

We can all use some encouragement. I don't think anyone is here because they want to stay overweight. We are here for support when it depresses us, want to give up and get advice on what worked for them.

I think anyone who wants to be here has the right to be here. Personally I like hearing others postive stories. It gives me hope and encouragement. Weight is just a number and everyone has a difference in opinion on what obese is. Some think that at 200 they are obese. I would be happy to weight 200.

I am 5`4 and am currently at 318. When I started back in May I was at 350. To some here they may think wow I would like to weight just 300 and something. My point is we are on the internet on a public support forum. We are all different. If you dont like a post or agree with it, just ignore it. That is the wonderful thing, we all have the option to just ignore what we dont want to read.

Unless you are now in charge of the recruiting for DS you have no right to say who comes or goes. Why not try and post something positive instead of segregating people? Anyone that wants to be here is welcome here.

I'm a bit confused here, being obese and needing the emotional support that goes along with it is all part of the problem, we can't separate these two issues they go hand in hand, no matter what stage of obesity a person is at, even if someone has managed to lose all their weight and they are "normal weight" it doesn't mean that they still don't need the emotional support because a lot of the time they still have the emotions that go along with being obese, it takes the mind a long time to catch up with the body..

I understand that there is people in this group that want to focus solely on the emotional side and the feelings that go along with obesity and all power to them, but you have to understand that there is the other side of the coin in the sense that there are a great number of us that are trying to lose " a whole other person " weight wise, I don't think any of us should be condemned for that or told to leave the group because of what we're trying to do, and we have to deal with the emotions that go along with that...

Caruth I'm sorry but I'm getting more and more disgusted as I read the comments from you here, I think they're bullyish and starting to make people that need to be here leave the group, ok so your not looking for the same support that a lot of us are, don't click on the threads geared at weight loss, pretty simple really but please don't be telling people they shouldn't be in this group just because they want to lose their weight, Diets and weight management seems to be geared more towards those wanting to lose a small amount of weight, and people that have 100lbs plus to lose need support on a whole other level that they get in this group.. a bit of empathy compassion can go a long way.. I've seen that your a christian woman, God doesn't discriminate he teaches love, respect, compassion, acceptance and empathy and a whole lot more, he wouldn't be telling ppl they don't belong here would he?