Obesity Support Group

This community is dedicated to those of us struggling with obesity. Obesity is thought to be a significant risk factor in certain health conditions, leading to increased mortality. Find the support you need by sharing your story, asking questions, and learning from others on how they have coped.

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tammyswift
tammyswift
Not even sure what to say. I'm embarrassed & humiliated of my weight now & how I look. I don't dare to even look in the mirror any more. I despise what I see. I'm a recovering addict. Now 7 yrs. clean so doctors won't even consider giving me any sort of a diet pill & I honestly understand why they wouldn't. I'm in this wheel chair, can barely make any steps at all, only mainly to the bathroom. Sometimes I just wish I would pass away in my sleep. I am that miserable. I'm trying everything to lose this weight but exercise is nearly impossible but I still keep trying. I was ready to throw in the towel but decided to give it one more try. So I googled help with obesity & discovered this site. I'm completely oblivious as to how this site even works yet. Don't know how to make friends. Heck I've not even figured out how to get my profile pic on yet even tho I've loaded them. But I'm here.....giving it one more shot. I really need an understanding friend. Surely someone cares. I'm just very depressed. Guess that's it for today. God bless all, much respect, Tam
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tammy, thank you for reaching out. This is a great place to vent, ask questions, or anything else. We like to offer each other support and discuss what we are going thru. This wt thing is not easy, especially when it is due to medication.
It is also hard when our body hurts. My left leg has been hurting for a month and it is bad when we can't move like we want to.
Please just take it slow. Try to eat healthy, lean meat, veg and fruit. Drink water and easy on the bad stuff. I do eat a little bad stuff, or else I will binge later, and that is not good. Try for portion control. Maybe try some chair excercises if you feel up to it.
Just take one day at a time and try to stay positive. Do hobbies that make you happy and keep you busy.
Post your journey and we will cheer each other on.
It is not easy, but nothing worthwhile in life is. Lets make it a lifestyle change so something we can live with.
My best to you and just make small goals, so then it is not so overwelming.
jeanielivinglife
jeanielivinglife
Hi Tam
First congratulations on seven years clean and sober! I recently got pills from my dr and I was so excited. Short version, didn't work for me. I want a magic solution and I haven't found one.
Welcome....I don't know how to work this site yet but found the people to be friendly and accepting> I care about you...you touched my heart. I'm on the site for depression also and I don't know how to work that one either. I just started in a fitness chair exercise group and I like it. Can you go out at all or stuck at home? I can't drive so I have to get rides. I'm celebrating the loss of ounces....medis make it hard for me to loss weight. I can be your friend if you want?
jeanielivinglife
jeanielivinglife
Hey Tam, you got your picture up...Success! I'm impressed.
Jeanie
Laraine17
Laraine17
Don't we know how you feel although you have had more than your share of bad times. Plenty of caring people here - look for groups that will interest and support you. A couple of groups here that I like are Don't Give Up, One Calorie At A Time and WINGS. Hope you get to starting to feel better really soon. Hugs
joannannotti
joannannotti
Oh Tammy! Your painful feelings are so apparent and I'm so sorry you are struggling with these issues. It's a good thing to reach out and look for support. I hope we can all help you feel better. For the time being, I suggest you forget about losing weight or exercising. Try eating healthier one day at a time. Start by looking in the mirror and find just one positive thing you see in reflection. I see your amazing and inviting smile and the sparkling eyes that accent that smile. Sometimes it's hard to love yourself or to find anything positive to grasp. I hope we can help you. I really, really want you to feel better!
Jo
allisonwenger
allisonwenger
Hello and welcome! Congratulations on 7 years! Excellent! I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes this January. It scared me so much that I changed my eating habits immediately. That change was the best thing to happen to me. I'm a big girl. I have a sedentary life due to major scoliosis issues and surgeries for spinal fusions. It was hard to stay the course, but I did and as a result I have lost 27 pounds so far. I too suffer from major depression and anxiety. You're not alone! If you're looking for a healthy diet, try the DASH diet. Let me know if you want to hear about what I eat or the way I diet. Good luck! Hugs
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Do not worry about exercise right now. I am all for exercise but really it's mostly food. A dietician maybe can guide you with a diet. Typically just start with small changes. My weight has been going up and understand feeling depressed and it appears you gained alot in a short time. That's devastating to anyone but you need to fight for your health. You are worth that. You are not just what you weigh, we are so much more. But for health reason you definantly want to get going. Hugs.
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