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Anxiety over being HUGE

amabeach21
amabeach21
I am about to turn 30. I have been having pretty severe anxiety for over a year. A lot of it is related to my health and my weight. I worry about my health, so then I start having chest pains from anxiety and then I convince myself I'm having a heart attack. It is a dirty, vicious cycle. I have an even harder time because ALL of my friends are thin and love to have drinks and go out to eat, and they ALL tell me that I'm not fat. I am though. Just because I don't look as big as I weigh...I am close to 300 pounds. I wear a size 16...I do have a lot of muscle left, I am very tall and curvy, but I am overweight. I can't stand the way my feet are swelling and my knees hurt. It makes me sick to think that I have let myself get to this point. I want to have children with my husband and I want to live a long full life. I exercise and I am starting to eat better and cut out a lor of the alcohol...but I really want to know, How do I deal in the interim? How do I make myself believe that I am not going to drop dead tomorrow? How do I get through this journey without killing myself with my own fears and anxieties? How do I get through it without having a drink every night to calm my nerves?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Amabeach:
You are doing great working on a healthy lifestyle. Try and look at it like one day at a time and do activities that relax you. When you feel the anxiety sneaking in, think pleasant thoughts and try and boost that anxiety out. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. This wt thing takes a lot of work and lots of patience. Keep focusing on your goals and you will be fine....
jeanielivinglife
jeanielivinglife
Oh don't I know it.
It is a cycle.
Weigh more than I want try, get anxious, have a panic attack and eat.
I love retiredrose suggestion.I need to look at the positives. I am exercising..more than I did a couple of months ago and it is one day at a time. My mind rushes to it all has to be done now and it doesn't...one day at a time................
normaeh
normaeh
if you have coverage, go see doctor get referred for councelling, dietician, and what ever else you can get help with. an anti anxiety drug for a short while may help. you are young at a great age to prevent poor health effects as you get older. they will give you support and help.
This is a great place to reach out to others too.

Changes will help, keep it up.
joannannotti
joannannotti
Nothing wrong with being "curvy". But if your size or your health issues cause you anxiety it's time to re-access. Like Rose said: you're young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Make positive changes now and you'll never regret it. Use the support offered here and any other place you can find to help keep you calm and on track.
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
I have anxiety about my weight , and just life. I also don't look as big as I am I am muscular but I feel HUGE. I have so much other stress in my life focusing has been so hard! I really worry since I am 37 if I don't drop it by 40 I am just going to end up huge. I worry about my health even more than my looks. As of now my health is ok but weight eventually always takes its toll.

The fact your starting and some concern is good. it pushes us to strive to be healthier
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