Nutrition Support Group
Childhood","Nutrition is a science which studies the relationship between diet and states of health and disease. Between the extremes of optimal health and death from starvation or malnutrition, there is an array of disease states that can be caused or alleviated by changes in diet. This community focuses on nutrition best practices for young children."
I have a love hate relationship with food. It is a
bad coping skill I have due to mental illness.
I never used to be like this.
But I try to loose weight--
And I know nutrition is a big part of that--
And hubby says if he can get me to at least do some sort of
activity every day it will all just change with my weight issues.
But I know he's wrong.
He doesn't understand that is not how I feel inside--
I tried to tell him if I work out and do really great and eat better and
make better food choices and one day I slip because I don't understand
how to keep my cravings under control and I can't stop them and give in to them-then my motivation is all gone because I feel defeated for giving in.
He doesn''t understand that you have to have motivation for both.
I feel good that I am trying-but I know if I eat something I know I
shouldn't then I am back at square one again.
He thinks all I need is motivation to work out or exercise--
But he is blindsided--
He won't see my side-tells me I am wrong--
Tells me to stop trying to get him to understand
Because he doesn't want to yell at me and get mad.
So what would you do?
We can agree to disagree-but whenever I slip and
loose motivation he blames it all on activity--
And never even considers I gave in one morning and had a
cinnamon roll
Or gave in one night and had a cookie or half a package of peeps.
He just doesn't understand the balance of nutrition and exercise.
I need to explain it to him so he can stop telling me I need to just
workout all the time. I know I need to workout-but working out
is pointless if you don't change your diet.
bad coping skill I have due to mental illness.
I never used to be like this.
But I try to loose weight--
And I know nutrition is a big part of that--
And hubby says if he can get me to at least do some sort of
activity every day it will all just change with my weight issues.
But I know he's wrong.
He doesn't understand that is not how I feel inside--
I tried to tell him if I work out and do really great and eat better and
make better food choices and one day I slip because I don't understand
how to keep my cravings under control and I can't stop them and give in to them-then my motivation is all gone because I feel defeated for giving in.
He doesn''t understand that you have to have motivation for both.
I feel good that I am trying-but I know if I eat something I know I
shouldn't then I am back at square one again.
He thinks all I need is motivation to work out or exercise--
But he is blindsided--
He won't see my side-tells me I am wrong--
Tells me to stop trying to get him to understand
Because he doesn't want to yell at me and get mad.
So what would you do?
We can agree to disagree-but whenever I slip and
loose motivation he blames it all on activity--
And never even considers I gave in one morning and had a
cinnamon roll
Or gave in one night and had a cookie or half a package of peeps.
He just doesn't understand the balance of nutrition and exercise.
I need to explain it to him so he can stop telling me I need to just
workout all the time. I know I need to workout-but working out
is pointless if you don't change your diet.
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
I'm going through sucha journey myself right now so I really understand! The book and site helpingme out is www.shrinkyourself.com (the book is called shrink yourself) It is the best book I have EVER read on eating issues. You really strip it away and end up staring at your issues in the face... but also he empowers you with tools to handle those wild emotions in ways other than eating... it is a much bigger journey than simply weightloss or exercise...
I would really encourage you to look into it cos it is changing my life.... you CAN do it!! but you are right just exercising will solve NOTHING. Even thin people can eat poorly and simply run it off but never face the issues behind the emotional eating....
And isn't that what we are all striving to be free of ultimately? Those cravings..the pull ..the cycle of failure and condemnation and starting again and having to justify ourselves? ...
wishing you all the best! Step by step right? The journey of a thousand miles....it's really NOT about the end goal with weight loss but really IS about the journey and going through that transformation as a person. And what I am realizing is it is so much more than nutrition and exercise but about me as a person... about my relationships .. my lost dreams...my passionate nature.. my hunger to do something that really counts in this life...
But when I was trying to stick to a diet, I was great... for a while. Then one day we would go out with friends and I would have something I wasn't supposed to have... then I would quit the diet for good... because I felt like I had failed. It really didn't work out well for me :( So I kind of know how you feel.
When you do find an eating lifestyle that works for you.. remember, you can slip but get right back on the wagon the next day. Try not to feel defeated. And don't deprive yourself of everything you love. Occasional unhealthy things, in moderation, are good to keep in mind so that they don't make the diet a failure when you deprive yourself :)
Don't feel that you've failed and might as well give up if you blow your diet. It's better to plan for a treat (something you crave) once a week than get so hungry and deprived you lose control and eat far more than you planned.