I have chosen NOT have any children. I know that I would not 'wish' this disease on my 'worst' enemy, much less my child. I know that 'they' say MS isn't genetic, but I have met or read about so many people that have a family member with MS too. I also read somewhere that if you have MS, it doesn't mean that your child will have MS too but it does put your child at a higher risk to have MS. Does that make sense?

Dear Flower! As a Mom of two --- all I can think of in my head.....Is....Sweetie, We Have No guarantees - Absolutely None! on how those lil genes are gunna be put together! ....when ya really think about how miraculous it is to grow a baby in you! the fact that anybody might be born normal or healthy is an absolute crap shoot!!! and I think I might have to question 'what his gene pool brings to the table?' Good Lord, if we all started looking at the possibilities of variables-might be, we all would Not be having babies, at all, ever.

I have 'this' to say about 'that'----I have a daughter who has Celiac Disease. As a result, her growth became stunted and at age 21 she is only 4feet-8inches tall. Her height has a Direct effect on her life everyday. She also enjoys more than her share of painful daily physical effects of this disease.......I have Celiac Disease. I am speaking to you as a woman who has 'passed something on to a child'. To say that I should not have had her or my son for that matter--Is fightin' words to me, brings out my Mama Bear. It would be like saying the disease is Bigger and more important-than the Absolute Overwhelmingly Wonderful Spirit That Is In All Of US.....and by the time you get to my age, (which isnt 'that' old)...you too might consider the idea--that it all seems we come here with our own set of lessons....born in bodies that will teach us those lessons.
Having Babies-the ultimate lessons in Letting Go & Letting God.

Keep talking this out with your love and get beyond the point of "feeling horrid"-less a resentment grows.

gave it to ya straight--with a great big ol' hug---

Here is the info. about the genetics of MS (just FYI):

http://www.webmd.com/multiple-sclerosis/guide/20061101/multiple-sclerosis-gene-cluster-pinpointed

Sept. 28, 2005 (San Diego) -- The most comprehensive genetic study to date of multiple sclerosis has pinpointed a cluster of genes on chromosome 6 as playing the major role in causing the disorder.

The findings will ultimately help doctors to develop better treatments for MS, researchers say.

Researcher Margaret Pericak-Vance, MD, director of the Center for Human Genetics at Duke University in Durham, N.C., says previous studies had already pointed to this area on chromosome 6 as playing a role in MS.

"What's different here is that we now know that it is the major effect -- that is, no other genes have an effect as large on causing MS," she tells WebMD.

Thank you soooooooooo much!!!

Smoches to all of you!!!!!!!

I have ms had 3 children , 2 before one at 40 time diagnosis , my dad sister had ms ,was also on my first husband side all my children doing well, we dont give this to child we may pass on gene means more likely develop it , but think myself if my parent gave me it and I am not convinced they did if was proven so, then so be it just as gave me blue eyes , gene were random set , dont complain good they gave so why would I blame them , no you have child , make decision be mother with ms not ms mother

I got pregnant a year & a half after dx and now have a 16 month old daughter. I always knew that I wanted to have children and the dx didn't change that desire one bit., though it did bring up MANY concerns.

Pregnancy was awesome! I felt great throughout and haven't had a relapse, though there is a 30% increased risk for 3 months after delivery (something else to consider).

At this point, I am absolutely sure I did the right thing. I have a reason to get out of bed every morning and I laugh every single day! Of couse, I hope to never be a burden for her or to pass on this horrible disease--but I also hope to raise her to be strong enough to handle life's challenges and make fabulous changes in the world!

Good luck to you!!!

I just found out I have MS and neither of my parents have it so its not always passed from the parent. And Im in the same boat ur in I want to have a child of my own I have 2 stepchildren but its not the same I want a child of my own. Just talk to him and let him know dont hold back thinking the worst bc having MS is not the end of the world only if you let it take you down. And when I found out I had it I said ok and Im still gonna b ok and Im gonna have a child.

And like Bobbijo said give ur worries to GOD and you will b good girl!! :~)