Your last sentence says it all? Good Luck with that.

Sounds like mommy spoiled him. Guess he can't wash clothing? Bet he can't scrub a tub? Bet he never sweeps a floor? He needs to grow up and fast.

He truly is immature and maybe not ready for a relationship. Remind him you are NOT his mother!!!!!!!!!!

Holy crap! Ur right! No sweeping! No tub scrubbing! Ugghhh yea he's an immature kid that's in his 20s..lazy bastard he is idk what his deal is butima straighten shit out

I raised a houseful of sons. I can assure you he is no KID. He is living on his own ...a man. Men in their 20's that want to bachelor play don't keep slobby homes for fear young women not want to visit.

He clearly is not grown up and it is even clearer that mommy spoiled him. He probably never lifted a finger in his birth home.

leave and get out of that relationship...just leave you are better of with out him. Its only gonna get worse he will never change/
Good luck to you!

Being a guy and know the saying about a woman scorned I'll just send you a hug and hope things work out, I'm old enough to know who's the boss

As far as the last statement goes.......Mihijita, it's not if you get worse.........Last time I checked there's no cure for MS. That's the most frustrating about this shit (MS) It progressively gets worse. When the MonSter changes, we change. If ur man is giving you stress then all he's doing is speeding up the MonSter's progression. Stress makes sick people sickerer. Your "bf" needs to "Man Up" and start acting like a man. I'm not gonna express anything negative about him, all I want is to make sure you know that YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! When I was in my twenties I was married. We lived together a year 1st and had our 1st kid 3 years after getting married. I never complained about her & she complained very little about me. All I wanted to do is make my woman happy. Come on Girl ! U can do better and you deserve better!

I ditto everything said here, just throwing in my two cents to say so. If he's a lazy ass, kick it..straight out the door back to mommy. He hasn't a freaking clue what you go through and if all he can see is what you DON'T do then sod him, you're young enough, fit enough and SMART enough to find someone who will not only be your equal but who you can lean on when needed.tell him to grow some cajones and GROW UP lol

I'm laughing here 'cause freddie's and my reply are nearly identical lol

I won't say that he is right or wrong because I know that I am only hearing one side of the argument.. and so I don't feel it's fair for anyone to judge.

However, I will say, that relationships are about balance and helping each other out, understanding and honesty. Disability can add a heavy strain that it takes a strong relationship to endure. If your relationship is this strained now with this level of disability, what will happen in the future? You should both sit down and discuss this and decide if the relationship is worth fighting for.

He said its all bout me all the time...ya damn right it is who provides..me who has the money..me who has the car..me who has the apartment..me so in the end it is all bout me!!! Until he steps up (which I doubt) I can't take it I don't want kids yet I have his ass...everything we own is mine so if he ever gets kicked out he got his clothes and TV only..so eat shit Mister Hernandez!!!!!! Uugghhh he wont last I know it but we will see..I haven't spoken to him really in two days n will continue silent treatment till he cracks! If he doesn't I still don't care I'm fed up!

ricanfema.........YOU have the power!!! Sounds like bf has nothing and is using you. Also sounds like he is also emotionally abusing you by putting you down so that you will think that nobody else will put up with you.....WRONG! Once an asshole....always an asshole!! Okay, I am talking like a mother, cause I have a child about your age. I would tell my child the same thing...so pardon me, but the mother lion in me has reared her head!!!

I have been married a long time. I have some of the same problems now since I was diagnosed in 2004. Chronic illness can change relationships and it has mine. We have been going to counseling. Perhaps that could be something that you two may want to consider, if you think he is worth it. My hubby needs to "man up" for sure and pick up the slack that I can no longer do....but from an article I read(that was posted here)men have a harder time taking on the "care giver" role than women.

I don't know the answer to your problem, much less mine, but I know that YOU deserve better and can kick him to the street, since you are the one that is basically supporting him. Mine is more complicated cause I still have a child at home and depend on my spouse financially. I also have a lot of years invested in hubby, who is a good man and I do love him, but he just doesn't understand MS.

Take care of YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tell him to get a job and that you will gladly take some of the money he owes you and that you will hire a maid to clean the house. If he doesn't like this idea, tell him to clean the house. That should shut him up FAST.
Get out now before you become embedded in this relationship to the point of no return. Take it from and "old bitch" that has been there and is still doing it.

(((hugs))) to you my friend!

Just look in your heart and your mind. You had the answer before you posed the question here. Maybe you just needed a little validation.

wow Rican, you are really getting alot of responses to get out of the relationship. You are in for a big change in life if you break up with him. Do you think, deep down inside of yourself, that nobody else would want you and that's why you continue to keep him on? It sounds like he bring nothing to the relationship...therefore, no reason to be with him. I've heard you say before that you love him, but sometimes "love" is not enough, especially with person with chronic illness like MS. Sometimes he doesn't sound very caring or considerate of you. If he truly loves you, it should be all about you. That is what real love is about, seeing the happiness in your eyes that only the real man for you can provide. It's not about me, but it's about what I can do to make my husband happy, and it should be vice versa. Then each person's needs can be met. It sounds like you really need to do some soul searching about this relationship and now is the time when this situation reared it's ugly head,. As someone said, don't wait on this. analyze your deep feelilngs and act upon it now. You sound like a totally beautiful person, and you are full of life even though you have a disability. I'm sure some man is going to find happiness in your arms, and it doesn't sound like it is Mr. Hernandez. You are going to need support and friends to help you get through a breakup if that is what you decide, and I want you to know that you will certainly get that support from your friends on DS. Big {{{HUGS}}} are sent your way!