Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
It has been along time since I have been on here. I have had two miscarriages a year apart. I was going to my doctor to talk about getting my tubes tied when the nurse said that I couldn't have that done for a while bc I was pregnant. I couldn't believe that I was pregnant again, for the 5th time and my last. It has been a hard road so far and I am only 16 weeks along. I have been so careful this time around and I don't lift anything heavy and I don't move anything heavy. I have been put at high-risk and I have an ultrasound every visit, which is something new to me. the doctor has said with the ultrasound that they are showing that everything is going good and that the baby is looking good. But I am still scared that something could happen. I don't think that my family could handle another loss so I am trying to do everything that I can to make sure that I don't do something to make it happen. I am resting a lot and watching what I eat and what I do. but it is still in the back of my head about what could happen. I have two boys, 9 and 3 and they know about the baby and they know about the two that I lost. but it is still hard for me some times. I have anxiety and depression so without my meds I am still a little out of it and not sure about everything, plus my family is all over the place, I live with my family (hubby, and kids) and my mom. But my dad and sisters are 4 hours away and I feel like I don't have the support like I used to have with my youngest son. Some family don't talk about it and others cant wait till we find out what we are going to have bc they want it to be a girl since I have two boys now and we are due for a girl in my family, just like we was due for a boy when I was pregnant with my 9 year old. my closest friend is 12 hours away from me and I sometimes feel alone. I just don't want to have another miscarriage and I am trying to do my best this time.
But how awesome that you are at 16 weeks. This reminds me of a friend of mine (it has a good ending). She had a son. Several years later tried for another. Tried IVF---embryos didn't make it to transfer. Kept trying to get pregnant and had at least 2 more losses.
She reached a point where she gave up. Her dr. said she would probably need donor eggs.
So she was convinced she was infertile. Only to discover a couple months later when she was getting her gallbladder scanned...that she was 16 weeks pregnant. All natural.....no intervention.
She was so convinced she couldn't get pregnant that she mistook the morning sickness for gallbladder symptoms. And the missed periods she thought were b/c she was in pre-menopause.
I just wanted to share this because that pregnancy is now a healthy almost 8 year old girl :)
Even when she believed she couldn't have a healthy pregnancy..it happened.
I am wishing you the very same. I'm sorry to hear about the loneliness....that the support system is so far away.
In all honesty ....through this journey I have felt closer to the women here on this site than most people in my non-virtual world.
Because the women on here understand.
There is another support group on here that you might want to join as well. It's called Pregnancy After Loss/Infertility.
Where everyone understands your angst. I completely understand it.
Sending good thoughts your way.