I had my miscarriage several months ago and sometimes it still hurts like it was yesterday. Over these past few months I've had many responses to my miscarriage, and to my dismay most of them have been really disappointing. Most people say really hurtful or unhelpful things like "miscarriages are common", "you werent that far along",or "It just wasnt meant to be" After months of wanting to punch people, its occured to me that maybe the world just isnt equipped for dealing with miscarriages. I was just recently informed that someone my friend knows had an abortion at 17 weeks. I didnt know you could wait that long, so I did research and found out that people can have them up until 24 weeks. I was SHOCKED and hurt. I lost my baby that I wanted so badly before it even had a chance and people can get abort their babies up until 5 months. Now I am in no way saying people shouldnt have the right to chose whether or not to go through with a pregnancy, but after finding all this out its no wonder people have a hard time sympathizing for women who have miscarriages. We in someways live in a world that doesnt really consider a baby valuable until its outside of the womb. I'm a firm believer that people have the right to different views and opinions on abortion and pregnancy, but I've just now realized that the reason so many people cant empathize with me is beacuse we live in a society that sometimes tells us not to believe in, care for, or form attachments to things we cant see or touch. So since I wasnt really showing yet, or people couldnt see my big belly the baby wasnt real to them, and they really dont understand the love and attachment that I had with my child. It might sound crazy but sometimes I feel like we live in a world that really thinks life is dispensable.

I was just wondering if anyone else felt the way I do, or had any other revelations about why some people dont really seem to understand the hurt, anger and frustration women have after miscarrying.