Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich
today i found out that what i thought was just my period returning was really a miscarriage. 8 weeks along give or take, and i found that out because well after years of knowing what my periods are like.... and this abnormal one.... strange. i started paying attention to the tissue expulsions... and in them i saw the tiniest little alien figure.... it hit me then. i cried.... i screamed and cried. my god..... i need help, and i CANT let my bf know.... it'd kill him. Oh god what do I do now?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can come to tell your BF, he deserves to know, and I think you need the support from him right now. I am here if you want to talk. And again, I am sorry. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless you and your sweet angel.
Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich
but how do i tell him? how can i take a piece of his heart away as it did mine???
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's going to be ok. I am so sorry for your loss. You need to sit down with him and tell him as gently as possible. Know that it is going to be very difficult, but he has the right to know too. You will be ok. This takes time. I had one 10 years ago and the circumstances surrounding mine are still hard to think about. I'm sure he will be supportive of you. I will keep you in my prayers.
Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich
Im not so sure he'll be so understanding. BEsides, he'd be trying to tell me Im wrong, that it's just my normal cycle.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm very sorry for your loss. Right now you need to take care of yourself and you need support. Please tell someone close to you that you trust, who that person is is up to you.

Consider seeing your OB/GYN doctor also. The doctor can confirm what happened and follow-up to make sure there are no complications (this might also help you discuss it with bf).

My heart goes out to you. Just take it one step at a time. That's all any of us can do. Take care.
Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich
do you guys really think i should tell my bf?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you should because thats hard and you should not have to go through it by yourself. You really need some support if at any time, now. I had a m/c by myself and had to wake my love up and tell him...even that was hard. At the times when you need more support this is where your true friends kick in. Do it when your ready. Its bad to rush yourself after something awful like this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes tell him. You cannot keep this to yourself. He might be hurt at first but at least you will have someone to go through this pain with.
All the best and so sorry for your loss
Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich
now heres the question.... how do i tell him?
Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich
bump
Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich
please... SOMEONE tell me how I tell him about my immense pain.
4tomorrow
4tomorrow
I'm so sorry for your loss. You need to talk to him face to face and let him know that you are in a lot of pain. I know it will hurt him too but you need his support right now. I'm so sorry and I know what you are going through.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You can't keep this to yourself. I think you need to tell him face to face and tell him about your feelings. You guys will need each other for support.

BEST OF LUCK! I'm sorry for your loss. If you need to talk, I'm here.
Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich
thanks guys
deleted_user
deleted_user
i didnt tell my bf i was even pregnant at one point till last weekend. he will be shocked, but there isnt anything anyone can do to change it so he will just have to deal with it. sure its gonna hurt, of course it will, but he will know that it wasnt ur fault and u cant change it