I've been trying to "get over it" too. I lost my baby at 6wks4days. I miscarried this past week. I swear that a part of me died too. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sick of hearing "God has a reasons" or "You can always have another one." It's like no one understands. That's why I'm here. I feel like only people who have been through it can understand. I hope things get better for you. :(

I don't know.

I am in the opposite position where a lot of people I am close with have also had miscarriages and they have been really supportive but..it's hard.

I thought I was doing well, working on it. I lost my baby at 8wks1day and when I hit what would have been 12 weeks I was really upset, but that was a fews weeks ago now and I really thought I was "getting over it". But I started yoga again and in one of those quiet moments when you hold the pose, I just started crying. ugh...it was awful. So I don't know. I hope eventually we will come to peace with all of this. Best of luck.

Thank you for your comments. I never know what to say to others who are going through this. Everyone is different and grieves different. That's where some people don't understand. They figure, oh just have another one or but you still sit there and think to yourself. WHY ME??? What did I do for this to happen, meanwhile you see others so happy especially on facebook... FACEBOOK is so hard when something like this happens because everyone is posting about their pregnancies, or their kids.
I envy anyone who can get over it. I feel I am my own worst enemy. The thoughts that go through my head make me angry and frustrated.

Thank you for listening to me.

Ladies I hope Things get better for you as well.

It is very difficult dealing with a miscarriage. I miscarried 4 months ago and it is still constantly on my mind.
I also feel like everyone is pregnant or having babies. One month ago my best friend told me she was pregnant, another good friend had a baby and recently another friend told me she is pregnant. I think it makes dealing with the miscarriage even harder when it is so much up in your face.
I don't think it matters how long you were pregnant, it hurts the same. Society makes you think it wasn't that long so you should be over it but a loss is a loss. It takes time to grieve and heal.
I have learned that people say very insensitive things which we never forget. It hurts so much but I don't think people are trying to hurt you.
I think it isn't fair that everyone else gets to have their happy, healthy pregnancy but I don't, why me?
Unfortunately it can take a while for things to feel better. Everyone is different. It will soon be 5 months since I miscarried and I still feel pretty bad. There are a lot of rollercoasters of emotions but it does seem to ever so slowly get better and the rollercoasters get shorter.
I hope this helps you not to feel alone. It is completely normal all the things that you are feeling.
Feel free to private message me if you need to talk.

I have had a really hard time with Facebook too. I have been trying to stay away as much as possible. It felt good to take a break from it.
There is definitely a lack of understanding on miscarriages especially people that have not been through one. Because of that, there is a lack of support which makes things even harder.
For me it helps to talk to people that are open to hearing about it.
I hope you feel better.

Facebook is the worst. I haven't opened it since I found out my levels were dropping 6 days ago. I am actually finding it pretty nice to not go on Facebook. The lack of understanding is hard and frustrating. I agree about the comment about it not being your time. People are trying to help but it minimizes the experience. People should say,

"I'm so sorry you are going through this and I'm here for you. I know your time will come and it will be so joyful, I'll be here through it all, and all the feelings you have are totally justified."

People want to fix it, fix you, by changing your perspective, instead of supporting you by validating your experience and emotions. I understand the intent is postive but the results are usually not great. I've found the best support is here with you ladies. The best support comes from people who aren't trying to fix it, but just understand it themselves.

I wish no one had to experience this. It just seems that the people who truly want children seem to have it the hardest. I can relate to all your woman and it is a sense of comforting. No one in my family has had to experience this so they don't understand. My mother brings up the fact that my oldest brother was born with a birth defect and She always wonder what she did wrong that he was born like that. I can understand were she is coming from but then again my brother was born, she didn't lose him.

I watched my sister and brother both struggle from having kids so young so I decided to wait till I was older. Now it just seems to be biting me in the butt. I am definitely not getting younger and would like to have more than 1. Just seems so difficult and I am scared for it to happen again.

Ladies Thank you for all your comments. Definitely helps to hear others in the same position I am in. It has been 2 months since my miscarriage and I thought I was going good until I saw my cousin was having a baby, and I just balled up. A lot of times I just hide and bottle up my feelings, or when I am alone I just cry to myself.

Hoping things get easier.

You don't get over it. You just learn to live without your baby. Hugs.

hi Krystal, I'm so sorry for your loss! I miscarried my first baby this year at 6 weeks, also. And it's been 6 months, but I'm definitely not over it. They were our first babies, how can we be over that? People think they will fix the pain or make it go away by telling us that our experience wasn't a big deal and wasn't important, but that makes it a whole lot worse. Yes, pregnancy is a big deal, and your baby is important. It's not crazy to be grieving for your baby, it is normal because you loved your baby and he or she was important to you.

I had an incomplete miscarriage that was detected at a 7 week ultrasound almost 4 weeks ago. It ended in an D&C after my body didn't respond to medication. It was a huge rollercoaster and still is. But as time goes on it gets easier to handle, there is never any way to "get over it". This past weekend I had a BBQ to go to where there was at least 4 pregnant women and a newborn baby. 2 of them are good friends, I was ok while there, but on the drive home and after having some down time I got to thinking and I can't get my mind off it and I get so depressed. Nobody asks me how I'm doing, it is an ignored topic from my family but I think about it every day. I would have been 12 weeks tomorrow. ... lots of healing thoughts to all!

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my first pregnancy on x-mas eve. I was 10 weeks. My husband and I tried for almost 2 years. What made it harder was the baby was due between my husband and his brother's birthday (July 19, 2014). His brother passed away in war and we were really hoping god gave us our miracle.

I would love to say it gets easier but I am still struggling. I deleted FB because of all the pregnancies. I never want to wish this on anyone however I was questioning why the drug addict, jobless or the unstable girl got to keep their baby and I did not. So I took myself off to easy my mind. Like I said, I hope no one has to go through this.

Whatever you do, don't do what I did. I have pushed my husband away more than anything. He wants to try again and I don't. Two years of trying and then having my body go from pregnant to not was enough for me at this time. It has been an emotional roller coaster. I now want to adopt and he does not.

I feel I am trapped and have nearly pushed him to divorce. The one person who feels the same pain as me, I am pushing away and I am really mean to him. I dislike who I have become. I feel that I have lost my heart and nothing else can trump that. So please, with all your pain hold on to your husband. Don't push him away. He loves you more than anything and he can't make the pain go away. I wish I realized that before I really messed mine up...

You won't get over it anytime soon.... You will want to run away and peoples words hurt more. Just stay strong for your unborn child. Your child matters. Cherish the little time you had and for your child, get stronger. That is why I joined here. I need to concur this sadness. I am here for you like the others in this group. We will get through this!

*Hugs*

I am so sorry for your loss..... I too lost my first and even though it's been almost 2 years and I now have a healthy baby, I still ache for the one I lost.

I just want to say that unless someone has been in your shoes, they don't understand and they will say those hurtful words about moving on, it not being your time, etc.

I would like to say it will get easier soon but it may not, for me it was a roller coaster of some good days and some bad days, some very very bad days. I distanced myself from friends and family, I even called it quits with a long time friend because of her insensitivities.

My recommendation is to acknowledge what happened to you - realize that you are grieving the loss of a loved one and know that no one can tell you how long that grief process will last. Maybe even look up the stages of grief so that you can understand what you are feeling and know that it is normal.

And for me I finally had to limit the number of ppl I talked to about our miscarriage because unless they had been through it, they didn't say the right things, they only made it worse. I found a lot of healing here and I hope you do to.

And my final words of advice - let time be your friend. the sharp edges of grief will dull over time, never to go away, but to be easier to manage.

I am so sorry for all of you lovely ladies who lost your babies. I was finally pregnant for the first time with twins. This past weekend was officially a month after losing them. I went into labor at home at 19 weeks. Found out later it was due to incompetent cervix.

I just dont know how to feel "normal". Due to my extreme surgery, vaginal delivery and c-section I am on leave from work. I don't fall asleep until 4 am and I just never want to get out of bed. I am a mess, I cry everyday. I honestly feel like my soul died with my babies. When I close my eyes I see my son and my daughters' faces.

I could use any advice. How do I get back to living? Is it possible?

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my twins at 19 weeks. It has been a month and I still cry and hurt everyday. I am also 31 and these were our first babies after going though IVF. I delivered both babies, held them, named them and even had to plan their funerals.

Nobody around me totally gets the pain besides my husband. I know what you mean by you being sick of hearing things like "it wasn't your time" or "you can do it again". I don't think these people know what they are saying. I feel just as angry. I have never done anything bad to anyone in my life so I don't understand why me. I have never wanted more than just having my own family and home and it's just not happening..

I find comfort in talking to the women on here because they know the feeling. I to take it a day at a time. I'm still hurting. I wish I had the right answer to stop your pain but I don't. You are in my prayers.

pd510.. I am truly sorry for loss. I come to realize (you, I, We) will never "Get over It" and we shouldn't have to. Those were your kids and I really wish I knew why this happens to us.
No one is going to tell us how we are going to feel after something like that. My husband won't let me throw away our 1 and only sonogram picture, it is actually still hanging on my refrigerator and it reminds me everyday. Things will get easier, but it will be hard at times. I though I was good for a while, but then a Facebook post from my cousin put me over the edge just a little. Just take it day by day. Reading everyone's posts on here never lets me forget that this happened but makes we realize even though I am the only one in my family who went through this, I am still not the only one.