I am so sorry for your loss. I don't feel that you "can just get over it". I just went through a miscarriage with twins a few days ago at 13 weeks. =( I feel empty, lost, hurt, and I'm just crying all the time. I feel the same way you do, and I understand where your coming from. I ask myself all the time, "why me? what did I do so wrong?" I had my first ultrasound and everything was fine, they were moving like crazy, had strong heartbeats and then that night I started cramping and bleeding. The following 4 days just got worse, until it was over. Maybe my cervix could't hold them anymore? Who really knows... I'm so lost and hurt...

I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope things will get easier with time...

It is nothing to "get over".. for those who have not been through it can not understand. Just know that you are stronger because of it. And although you may not like to here it, those people who have accidents and do not have their head on straight would probably not be handling it well at all. What doesn't kill you makes it stronger. I know its hard but try to see the positive and think of the future babies that are waiting for you!

You are grieving alone. Only you saw the baby as real. Others see you as having something like flu - get over it.

That is not going to change. Think about what you would have said to a friend last year if she miscarried. I don't know any words help.

2 months is nothing. Your not going to feel OK for a long time.

If you can, see a proffecinal. Don't expected your loved ones to understand, but acknowledge your need for an other human being to be understanding.

I've had multiple miscarriages, none got a hart beat. Some how, others think this doesn't count as loss.

Ask your doctor about counciling, if your doctor is not on your side, find a new doctor.

Hopefully, one day you will be pregnant again, you need a doctor on your side.

It really doesn't matter how far a long you were. Its all about how you feel.

Get support, don't let anyone tell you this is nothing.

Its going to be a long year for you, but one day it might get better

Your not alone, but seriously find real help.

I miscarried next month will be a year since i lost my baby and your right it does feel like a part of your dies because every day I still cry. My baby was my world. Me and my mom was gonna raise him or her because the father left me. I have the pain in my eyes every day but no one see's not even my husband. He tells me he does but no he does not. How could he see the pain in my eyes he wasn't there when I lost him or her. We were not even together then. My mother lost my brother 21 years ago and she is still in pain she still misses him. She miscarried with him. This was right before I was born. I didn't see the pain in her eyes not until I lost my first pregnancy.

Today has been a really hard one for me. My mother, who never miscarried suggested I look into a support group, so here I am, and so far the stories you ladies have shared hit me right in the heart and I think, "FINALLY, people who understand"! I am SO SORRY to hear of each of your losses, but I GET IT and now i'm here WITH YOU. I lost baby #2 a couple weeks ago and this one has hit me unbearably hard. With the first miscarriage, I found a LOT of women who had also miscarried and that really helped me get through. But now i've lost #2 and have yet to find someone else who has lost two in a row. Baby #1 was estimated to be born this coming Thursday, and having just lost baby #2, i've been feeling so overwhelmed. I miss my children, and nobody seems to understand. I too struggle with people dismissing my pregnancies as a passing thing, because to me, they were just as real as anybody else's, I just don't get to hold mine at the end of the day and smother them with kisses. Well, you all understand how I feel...

I just needed someone to share my feelings of grief and loss with today. Thank you for all of your comments that help me remember that i'm not the only one feeling this way and that i'm not weird for believing that my pregnancies resulted in two deceased children and it is okay for me to grieve their loss. I never want to dismiss them, even if I do have a successful pregnancy one day (which I still choose to hope for). I'm hoping that by grieving together, we can all find more strength from one another so we can keep moving forward as valiant women who will be REALLY AMAZING mothers one day; who have an extra appreciation for the miracle of having a live child to hold, hug and love, while still loving the ones we have lost.

I am so sorry for your lost, I never thought someone would understand even a little of the feeling I have had since I lost my child. Its been 3 months and I still don't feel like im moving forward to recovery/healing in my life. Everyday I try to put on a smile like everything is oaky but on the inside im dying inside. Although I know my mate is hurting in his own way I feel its so easy for him to go on with life like nothing has happened. I read the Bible every chance I get or when Im crying asking God why, why me but I still can not seem to find peace within this situation.

Krystal,
It's been three months and three days since my D&C. I feel the same as you do. I'm entirely heartbroken and having a hard time functioning. Yes, it feels like everyone that doesn't need or didn't plan on it is having a baby. I fight my jealousies every single day. "The time wasn't right" is what my mother says to me, and it makes me hate her. That's the last thing a hurting woman needs to hear!!! Then why was it my time to get pregnant?! Forget those people. They will never understand what this pain feels like, and we will never understand why this happens. Just hold on sweetie. I am in the same boat you are. Constant crying, anger, and pain fill each day. The main thing I try to remember, is how easy it is for bitterness and hatred to creep into your heart. Don't let this heartache make you mean! Hold onto the love for your baby! It hurts, but your baby loves you back!!!!!! We will always miss our babies. One day though, this heartache will feel like it was a lifetime ago. We will be so proud of ourselves for being able to get through this. Just think of the love, and hold onto it.

Hi Again Everyone,

Thanks again for all the words of encouragement. It really means a lot to me know that there are other women going through what I am going through. It has been exactly 4 months since my miscarriage and I took 2 HPT and they came out positive. I am trying to be stress free and be healthy. I know I didn't cause the miscarriage before but I still feel like it was my fault and that I let everyone down. My husband doesn't even want us to tell anyone until I am further than my last pregnancy. He doesn't seem excited and I understand why. He said he doesn't want to me let down again and I feel like I let him down.

Thanks again and hope to talk to you ladies again.

I'm sorry for your loss. You shouldn't be told to "get over it" that's just rude in my opinion. I miscarried July 29th with an emergency d&c August 4th. My heart is missing a little piece. Mine was my first miscarriage. I am having a hard time coping. I cry every day even just a little. Everything reminds me of what I lost. Friends and family seem to be posting left and right they are expecting. Some friends are feeling their baby kick for the first time and it only reminds me that I will never have that with the one I lost. Unless people have been through it, they have no idea what toll it takes on us. I miss my baby even though I never got the opportunity to meet her/him. I try to cope and move forward and praise God for the 3 miracles I do have but it hurts none the less. I pray each night that my heartache ease and maybe one day, it will. I planted flowers in memory of my loss and I talk to "my baby" every time I go out and see those beautiful flowers. I know it may seem silly to some but that's my thing and it's okay if no one else "gets it". I do hope you find peace and healed heartache soon, even if only a little but give yourself time the grieve no matter how long it takes. My husband tells me I'm different, that I changed but he's very supportive and patient. God bless you sweetheart and again, sorry for your loss.