Military Families Support Group

Today's military family faces a lifestyle that is comprised of frequent deployments, which results in increased family separations. This often proves to be a stressful challenge for military families. This community is dedicated to the families that are dealing with the unique challenges of distance and military-related stress.

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How to let go after a separation

playerapr
playerapr
Married for 10 yrs, after last deployment to Afghanistan my husband came back cold, distant, indifferent. Finally he admitted he wasnt happy and he wanted a divorce. I begged, I cried, I screamed, nothing worked. He says their is no other woman, that is him not me (so cliche), that he still cares about me but wants to get a divorce cause he is not happy. Finally after 6 months he decided to move out. I am hurt, in pain, I still dont understand what went wrong. We have 3 chidlren together and he wants to remain friends, he still calls me just to talk and ask how am I doing. Is like a roller coaster of emotions, mad, upset, sad, frustrated. I have to let him go but I dont know how, still love him and I miss my best friend.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Have you gone to the doctor's yet to get checked out physically and to have your depression and or anxiety acknowledged?
Your husband may have post traumatic stress. It is a hard adjustment to switch from being "vigilant 24/7" to being a part of a couple/family man/everyday daily living activities.
Take a deep breath. Relax. Find a way to put some fun back into your daily living activities, and smile, till it reaches your eyes.
Hang in there, and know you have support with daily strength.
playerapr
playerapr
Mideyebrow....love your reply....so much positivism....pieople always tells me why am I always smiling and your comment reminded me that I need to start smiling again.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Keep smiling!
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