If i were you i would just sit him down and tell him everything your doctor has told you!

I understand how you feel. My son is in the Marines, deployed now. He doesn't know the truth of what has gone on here at home and my health. Because I want him to be focus, now. As they have to be in the right frame of mind. I know I'll have o tell him when he comes back, with God help he does. I'll have to deal with that very soon.
But don't give him every detail while he is deployed. I know I had to lie to him, that doesn't make me feel good about that to this day. I just want him to come home alive!
I'm thankful we had our time together. Told each other how we feel, things going on BEFORE deployment. Turn out he on the front lines, new location, over 25 have Fallen, over 150 Wounded .

I only tell my son positive things now, I've even had to tell other family & friends, think twice before you write. How will it effect him?
Some of his family & friends don't really know or understand what they are going through. The rules we must follow to keep them safe!
I know it hurts, but he will understand why in time. Yet you are right about the transitional issues they have to go through when they come home. I read the information packet give to me about home coming. What they feel, think, act after deployment. It's one step at a time. It going to take time.
When they come home, wit God help. They'll will have to go through a long process before they can even come home. I've had some families complain "why can't they just come right home/"
They will have to go through that adjustment process, it going to take time for to relax. I simple thing of noise can make them jump!
Depends on the service he in? You'll get a information on the effects they will have of getting adjusted to coming home.
So many families just load them up with information of what has happen, it makes them go into over load. So many don't take the time the have to go through adjustment.

You're right to keep him focus. And the other troops too.

You're doing this out of love, and in time you'll be able to tell him. You;ll know when it's right. I pray that I'll know when it's right too.

God bless our troops and Families.

Thank you Kylieann for your understanding and kind words, it means the world to me that someone knows where I'm coming from. I'll do my best to figure it out but it is probably one of the hardest things to keep from him but I know its the best thing for his mind set and most importantly his safety! But my heart and prayers go out to you and your son and I'll be thinking of you too...*hugs*

I am so sorry about your brain injury as that had to be quite a hard thing to hear yourself. My husband is deployed and I have been rather ill before he left but had gotten better. He was so worried about me and I finally had to tell him that I was MUCH MUCH better and not say much else about it to him. He is my best freind and I can't imagine not having him with me...

So, if I were in your shoes, I would wait until a time that it was just you and him hanging out and then start from the beginning. Tell him about fallling, then the symptoms and then that you have a BI. He will but hurt as I am sure you understand but he will know why you waited to tell him. He will also want to know all about it and about the severity of the injury. I know that there were a lot of guys that came back with TBI when my husband was deployed to Iraq. Your brother will know about brain injuries them selves and will be a great support for you once he is home.

I wish you the best of luck. I pray that you get to see your brother soon as I can see that this is worrying you quite a bit.

Yes, Please keep all information to minimal and positive while the person is in a deployment.
Having gone through several deployments, and the wide range of adjustments on each deployment, the number one thing we did when hubby returned was give him quiet space time.
Unexpected noises, sounds, startling reactions, we just stayed calm and moved him to a safe place as needed. When he dropped to the ground after a couple of loud noises, the kids all dropped to the ground to help him feel more comfortable.
Waking him up, learned to touch his foot, as sometimes, he would bring his arms up and in front of him before he woke up completely.
When you sit down to share the experience, know that waiting is the gift you give your relationship with your brother. His adjustment will be easier knowing that you did what you could on your own, and that any help he provides will be appreciated.
All too often, I hear of family squabbles that put the service member in danger, and I have to stand quietly, smile, and know that my following the rules will help my service member stay safe.
Best wishes in the reunion and adjustment time!

I can't thank you enough for all of your advice..its really been alot of help. I've had further testing and alot more has happened since I wrote this so it is even more serious than I thought so waiting on telling him is definitely the right thing to do like I initially thought. I was able to skype with him once and I have written to him and I am in the process of sending him a recorder with me and my family sending messages that way, I thought that would be a nice touch since some of my family live a long ways away and they were here for a wedding anyway.

He's 3/4 thru his deployment and I can't wait for him to come home. Tonight we heard that bin laden was no longer, yippee! but still doesn't give me relief, I want my brother and the rest of the troops home and safe. But I think it will be a bit tough for Ry to hear of how much my brain is damaged since he left and I was one way and now...not so much. It's been a rude awakening for my family, I can only imagine how he's going to handle it. I might invite him to visit with my counselor and I so they might be able to explain it better than I will since I have problems with word finding too.

But thanks again for all your kind words and advice. Much appreciated.