MCTD Support Group
Mixed connective tissue disease (MCTD) or Sharp's syndrome is a human autoimmune disease in which the immune system attacks the body. MCTD combines features of polymyositis, systemic lupus erythematosus, and systemic scleroderma and is thus considered an overlap syndrome. MCTD commonly causes joint pain/swelling, Raynaud phenomenon, muscle inflammation, and scarring of...

Mary Ann
You will not like my reply, but here it is: Go to AA.
That is what I did, and I wish I'd done it when I was your age. I've been in the program for a little over three years... have not made it through all the steps, I'm up to step eight, but...
Holy crap, it just did wonders for the guilt, the feeling that I might have hurt myself. I am nearly totally free of that now-- the ghastly regret, wondering if it's my fault, all that crap. And I do not feel guilty about taking narcotics for pain or CBD either-- I take as little as I possibly can, it's very clear to me and my doctor how much I need and what I don't need.
Now I know the truth: I've done everything I can to stay healthy. The disease is random, it flares up for no reason, there's nothing I can do about it-- and I don't waste a minute worrying about it.
Don't try to do it alone, AA is too much fun.... I don't know where you are in the UK, but meetings in London are supposed to be amazing. In LA, it's just outstanding... if I were single.... ooh... even at my age, I get a LOT of female attention. I happen to be straight, but my gay friends have similar experiences at gay or mixed meetings.
People in AA do not always understand about MCTD; it's not perfect. There will always be some idiot who thinks you shouldn't take medication, or you're faking it, or whatever... but a lot less than in the general population.
@Ephesians2 - No, never been prescribed prednisone. Only hydroxycholorquine (plaquenil - though we no longer get that brand in the UK). My private insurance no longer covers me, so waiting to see an NHS rheumy in a couple months and will definately ask about it. I've noticed a few people mention it here.
@Katalyzt - Glad we have some common ground on the guilt factor. Will give your advice some consideration.
I really appreciate everyone who's read and/or commented - i wanted to get this out there as much for personal therapy to a group who understands, the interaction is really helpful - makes for feeling less isolated.. As you guys know, it's difficult for "normal" people to understand.
When I got pericarditis, I was actually on a very low dose of acid. This complicated everything enormously. I had terrible chest pain that came out of nowhere. First, I had to be sure I wasn't just freaking out. Then I had to convince my friends that I wasn't freaking out. Fortunately, one of us had not dropped that night and drove me to the ER-- they took one look at my pupils and sent me home because THEY thought I was freaking out.
At my mom's house, I wrote "goodbye" letters to all my friends and a "go to hell" letter to my one enemy and hid them someplace they would be found eventually, but not right away. Then I called my mom and told her to pull strings at the hospital (where she knew staff) to get me admitted. And they got me in, and as soon as they saw my EKG they knew something was very wrong.
I was in for two weeks on heavy steroids, really hairy, but full recovery. Before I was released, I met with the head cardiologist at Mt. Sinai in New York, and I asked him, "Look, be straight with me. Did the LSD make my lupus worse or cause the pericarditis?" (My diagnosis at the time was lupus.)
He looked at me, sighed, and said, "Well, I don't recommend that you continue using LSD, but the answer is no-- that has no effect on either connective tissue disorders or cardiac function. That was simply really, really bad luck."
Hang in there. Your new good health habits may catch up to you yet!