Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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will this lonliness ever go away

anxiousone
anxiousone
I am currently going thru my third divorce and have been separated from my husband since December, 2013....The divorce will be final this coming up week...everyone has always said to me that I can't be alone, that I have to have a man to feel complete..well I have been alone, without a man, other than my children now for 5 months, and maybe they are right...I am so lonely...even tho I have been married 3 times, I feel I have never know TRUE love....not that of a man...all my marriages have been verbally and emotionally abusive to the point that I just feel like there are no good men out there anymore, but that I do need that someone by my side to hold me when I need to cry, that emotional shoulder to cry on,something that ive never really had...I don't want my family to judge me because I am ready to start trying to date, even tho I am scared to death of being hurt again...altho I know that no matter what we do in this life, there is gonna be someone there waiting to throw stones...All I wanna do if fill this hole in my heart and I know that I should probably find something else to fill it with other than a man, but I want to one day finally meet my soul mate, and I don't wanna give up on love completely...as I sit here typing this now, tears roll down my face..thank goodness my children aren't here rt now to see me hurt...I try to put up a front for them, but even that is hard sometimes..i know that my being unhappy makes them unhappy and that hurts me worse than my unhappiness and lonliness...I just want my kids to be happy, but I would love to finally find true happiness as well...I feel as if im being selfish, but I don't wanna be lonely anymore..even in the marriages I was in, I was lonely, even in a crowd...I have very low self esteem and feel that no one can ever truly love me...im tired of crying, tired of the lonliness, tired of feeling unlove and unwanted...I know it starts with me, but I cant even love myself...im sorry for the rant but I needed somewhere to put this down and this has been my support for a long time even tho I don't post often...reading others posts help me very much....well I hope that if anyone reads this tonite, that you all have a good night, and are not feeling as lonely as myself....love and hugs to you all!!
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
It's great that you don't give up.

Sending you good thoughts.
billwfriend
billwfriend
There are good men but many have wives sorry your loneliness is raising its head tonight
Hugs
Bill
Calebb
Calebb
Going slow is an answer for some of us.

. C
deleted_user
deleted_user
I came across your post and feel you 100%. I posted in the divorce forum my story but yeah I've been married for 7 years and just recently got divorced and back to drinking again. It's tough, broken hearts are tough and considering you went through this more than once it's even tougher for you. Hang in there, hopefully the sun will shine for both of us soon..but it's damn hard.
ginateresa
ginateresa
I too am dreaming of finding my soul mate. I've been going through this Lonliness thing up and down up and down for years. I raised all 3 of my kids through it....still am. I won't give up hope in finding my soul mate, but I realize that I was picking the wrong kind of men....or they were picking me. Until you study up on codependency and abuser's tactics....I would recommend that you not date.....they pick up on your vulnerability. Good luck, hun. You seem so sweet and caring.....give it some time. :)
Firstfall
Firstfall
I agree with what ginateresa said.

I want to add that taking care of - and learning to love - yourself is in no way being selfish. Take your time, look into support groups here, and hopefully when you are learning to love yourself the right love for you will find you.
gramybear
gramybear
No, they are NOT right. I have been without a husband for 5 years now and I don't need a man to make me complete. I have plenty of male friends that truly care about me and that means a lot to me. Please don't think that a man has to fulfill you. The same thing applies to men about women as well. It's only been 5 months. Is there some urgency to date again? How about finding out and learning about yourself for awhile?. You will meet your soul mate, I honestly believe that, but searching out of desperation so you are not alone isn't going to find him. He is going to appear in your life in the most unexpected way one day, and you will know. Your heart will know. Why do you want to put yourself in the same boat as your last relationship? Stop the crying, concentrate on your children and maybe some volunteer work, and let yourself rest for awhile. Your low self esteem comes through greatly, and maybe you need to take this time to build that up so you CAN find your soul mate and not just settle. You are wrong when you say that no-one could ever love you. That is a lie that you are telling yourself so you can justify why you need to find a man now. Please give yourself a break. You just might miss your soul mate if you don't. Here is a quote I would like to share before closing.

One day, someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.

Hugs GB
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