Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
I haven't posted anything in this group for quite sometime, maybe because I guess I forgot, for awhile, how lonely I am. No matter how hard I try, it will always be with me. I really don't get out much, especially during covid, so I don't really have any friends outside of family. I've given up hoping I'll ever find someone I could call a girlfriend, and of course ever being married and have a family of my own. I've tried asking women out in the past, but they all turned me down. Can they all sense, somehow, that I have a mental illness? Accepting the lonileness, that I'll have forever, is getting a little easier, at times. Other times I have to hold back tears. To all of the others on DS struggling with loneliness, you're in my thoughts and prayers. I guess I have you guys. Take care!
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I need some outside perspective because I’ve been feeling extremely lonely in my relationship, and it’s getting harder to ignore.I’m with a woman who has two kids, and over time I’ve realized I don’t feel connected to her or the home at all. She and the kids have their own bubble, their own rhythm, their own emotional world. I’m there physically, but I don’t feel included in...
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Hello,I do not share with my husband and others when I have a setback and feel depressed. Are you the same? I withdraw, so it is nice to just acknowledge challenges in this chat. Thank you,
1. Treat women as people, they're really no different, and that's why guys with sisters tend to do better.
2. Context-appropriate conversation. So no, you don't discuss your illness or challenges on a 1st date.
3. Discuss her interests. Ask some questions and logically follow up. Ideally you date someone with some common interests. Read Carnegie's memorable book, How to Win Friends and Influence People
4. Smile when you see someone. Compliment her on how she looks but don't get handsy for at least the 1st two dates.
5. Be open. Having dealt with some challenges the last few months, one realizes how shallow looks can be, and there are other things. So be interested in someone who is a nice person.
I have relatives with mental illness and most of them have married. Two are guys and maybe do come across as strange. I’m just being honest. Two women have not married, both seem to not bond with or need other people. One has kids and is clinging tight to them as adults. I heard she was dating some guy, doubt it lasted. Because she has too many personality issues and alcoholism so that tends to create relationship problems.
I’d say to you that there are many loving and caring people in this world but younger generations don’t seem to date or even want personal love connections. Add in the pandemic fear. Where I live, people are going about their business and doing normal things again. My young male relative wants to date (I think) but I think young women see him as strange or odd perhaps? Although he’s smart and is doing well at his job, that depression he gets may scare them off. And he gives up and isolates when depressed which reduces his contact with others. I’m just telling you what I observe and I don’t know if he’s even trying to date at this time. He is doing more hobby things which will help him meet more people.
Don’t give up on yourself. Whatever problems you have, continue to seek help and emotional wellness. Attend support groups for your brain health disorder. It’s a mindset shift, from giving up to trying again for today.
The advice above is good except be careful how you compliment women. Don’t say anything about their body, clothing, hair, or beauty. No longer acceptable in todays climate of sexism awareness. You can compliment them on something they did well at work, say how they handled a difficult customer, or the smart comment they made in class. If they have a pet, you can talk about pet stuff.
I heard this inspirational speaker talk years ago. He’d put five Pennie’s in one pocket every morning. His goal was to compliment five people every day. First compliment given, first penny goes into the other pocket. He spent the entire day looking to make others feel good with a proper compliment and this made them feel good about themselves. End of day, he assessed his penny pocket- fail or win? When we do stuff like this, it takes our thinking away from our own issues & problems. By making other people feel good and see that we value them, we bring sunshine to the world.
And Mich note, if you met a beautiful girl who liked you, and she said she had some insecurity or the like, would that stop you. So get some nice clothes a good haircut, do a lot of smiling and listening, and good luck. .