Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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why cant i make friends or keep them happy?

ellie2019
ellie2019

Ive been compeltely alone now for 2 years and im only 19years old, im not sure weather to just embrace being different and to keep going like i am or if i should try somthing new to meet some people of my own age again. I lost all my friends in one blow and ive tried to meet some new people which i have then been ditched by, so i guess im just teriffied of being abandoned all over again.I used to be loved by quite a few people and then over time they all started going there own ways and all meeting up without me so obviously it just made me feel very left out and lonely. Honestly i just dont know what to do anymore. Im still young and i dont want to be by myself for the rest of my life. 

Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
First of all you shouldn't have to try to make anyone happy other than yourself. Not saying be a jerk but do you find yourself trying too hard? Do you worry about it ending when you meet people? Overly friendly? I'm just asking to get an idea of you that's all. I'm not implying anything i swear
sonnycamehome
sonnycamehome
I think it's really hard to meet new people and then maintain those relationships.

I'm not sure if you work or go to school, but it might be worth joining a club at school or trying out some volunteer work just to keep yourself in the habit of hanging out with other people who share similar interests as you. It'll also keep you active, and you may just make some new friends while you're at it. Keep in mind that you don't have to make new best friends right away...acquaintances are always a good start - new relationships, even friendships take time to grow, so be patient and try to have some fun while you're at it <3
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Find something you are passionate about like learning to play an instrument or gardening or anything that makes you happy, and then you will easily connect with others who have the same passion and you will help each other and give each other support. That's how you make friends.. Life is a gift, go outside and enjoy it!

God Bless
lucillegem
lucillegem
it is hard meeting new people and trying to make new friends,
Ive been in University for awhile now and Im not in anyway close to anyone, something I struggle with, but I am slowly accepting that sometimes things have to be organic, instead of trying to force it. Its a cheesy line but be yourself, learn to care and love yourself first and the rest will follow.
If you truly want to meet more people, go out more and enjoy it without having expectations. I think once we put to much pressure on ourselves to have to be surrounding by people, we get so broken when it doesnt go through. So, let it be and Im sure you will find some good friends!
Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
No Lucillegem it isn't cheesy. Being yourself and loving yourself is key. Everything else will follow. Love works the same way. The harder you look the less likely you will find it. Let life happen but happy with yourself is so important
wintergray12
wintergray12
I lost all of my friends this last summer. left in the dust. alone to pick up the pieces. i understand how you feel. everyday i see my friends living their beautiful life without me. it’s hard because you want it back but can’t have it. although it’s hard, embrace this time of pain to grow closer with yourself and build yourself stronger then ever before. it may seem impossible but it will happen. i’m in that same boat. i’m here for you. feel free to message me at any time <3
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
Are you in college?
What are your life goals? go ahead and try to write down a few, where do you want to go? what do you want to see? what would you like to do as a career?
Are you an introvert or extrovert?
Bluebird20
Bluebird20
There are affirmations I read on the internet, o e that helps me when I get next or whatever is: "I let go if the desperate need for li e and approval, I let go and let love find me easily and effortlessly." More or less what scaredandafraid said. Good luck to you. Also, developing yourself, in an area your In like gardening, sports, music lessons, handiwork. Woodworking, games, and so many others.
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