Why do you think no-one wants you hon? I don't understand that. You are an intelligent man with a big heart and most important, in my eyes, is someone with a big heart. I don't believe for a second that no-one wants you. I think that is the negative side of your thoughts talking. I would really like to hear why you think this way. Would you share? Hugs Gramybear

Hi gramybear. You're probably right but it's also because after 46yrs I still haven't heard those three little words that mean so much "I love you" from anyone. Although I must admit who would want to love a failure anyways. Hugs gramybear.

Well for me...even in a fourteen year marriage ...I am very lonely. My husband treats me like a invalid. Which I am not. His idea of spending time with one another...is him on the computer for eight hours and day and me on my lappy for eight hours of day. So I am leaving...for the third time in two years....I am not comming back this time though...I will file for divorce immeadiatly. So then I guess I will be lonely lonely...but it has got to be a improvement somehow....anyway...sorry I got a rant there somehow...that is why I am lonely though

My loneliness comes from lack of friends. My parents and my two little dogs are all I have. I'm trying to get my life on track, but it's difficult when you feel like you do not fit in any where.

flutterbyfree, ranting is more than welcome. :) I'm sorry you are feeling lonely and that goes for you too dachshund2014. Hugs for everyone.

Thanks, hugs sent to you as well.

I have a similar problem. I get so tired of my parents being the only ones who want me around. I need a good friend. I just thought you may like to know that you're not alone.

I have a lot of acquaintances but people do not seem to want me to be their companion in doing things with them....like going to movie or dinner or concert....I have now got what I think are three friends....one is a new friend that I dated short time but did not want relationship with....we are friends and do stuff together....that helps because before that there were just two who I could call and have a get together with....one is male and one is female and both are from Junior high school is how long I have known them....

even my AA sponsor is what I would call an acquaintance not friend....he sometimes includes me but mostly I am one of his poor friends and he is very very wealthy....and we do not do much together...I am not even getting the directions I need for step work in AA....I guess I should have someone else but I have sponsor jumped and it sucks....

anyway why I feel lonely is because I do not have a large friend base to rely on and no relationship either which is pretty much my choice because I am not financially ready for relationship with someone....really...I live $ to $ and no savings at 56yrs old...never owned house....nada....

Lack of friends. No romantic relationship.

Not being in a romantic relationship. I've got a lot of love to give, and nobody that I find appealing to give it to. There have been a lot of flirtations with the opposite sex, but the women in my local area usually strike me as dumb, flippid, lacking emotional depth, or angry and bitter, which I try not to be, but, as I get older, this is becoming harder and harder.

Why call yourself a "loser". Probably, that's an opinion some very harsh people (or just 1 person) planted years ago. You can reject it at any time.

You acknowledge that you have a lot to offer - the fact that you haven't met the right person may not be about you. If it were not for the powerful drives/desires of adolescence, people would probably just text their way through life and never look up.

There are so many people that thrive on getting someone down, and keeping them there. The least you can do is believe in yourself. Low self esteem may be the only thing keeping you from what you want. Women really need men to be confident.

My loneliness - I don't have group. You can be a Kleptomaniac-Transvestite, and somewhere, you have a group. I probably wouldn't like my group, if I had one. Still, I'd like the choice :)

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"I used to be a people person, but people ruined that for me."

My loneliness comes from not having any friends, not being in a relationship or having anybody to share my love with and from feeling like I'm stuck in a place where I don't belong.

I feel completely shut out by my H. Starting to think I don't feel love the way I should. I'm a betrayed spouse and no I trust no one!! Even in a group setting I feel so alone. I also agree that I have so much to offer yet no one wants my attention.

Sometimes I wonder why anyone would want to love me, but they do. My parents and family love me. Sometimes I feel so worthless, but they still love me. I just thought you might like to know that you're not alone.

Mine is at night, at home. Where after spending all day dealing with the junk of the outside world, you go home and enjoy the people ( family ) you have and love. The quality time with them that washes all the hurt and dirty of the daily world off. Not having that is the loneliness part of my day, everyday. If I die in my sleep, let it people at home with family where I know I belong.