Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Lately I often feel like I am wasting time and wasting my life. I often think about if it would be possible to achieve anything, or what I really want.
I often am surrounded by people but I don't fit in with anyone. I don't understand them or their lives as anything other than a problem that needs to be solved, and fixed if possible.
I'm fairly outgoing and friendly but idk how to make friends. Especially being in a relationship I feel like I have to focus all time and attention on him and what he wants to do. But we don't have a lot in common and I don't enjoy doing activities with other people. Other than talking or eating together. I hate sports, they are so boring. He wants me to go do things in the city, and go to concerts. I feel sick with dread to do those things. I feel even more lonely when surrounded by people or in a crowded city. Like I have no voice and barely exist.
I try to keep myself occupied when I'm not at work, but I don't have enough money to do much, or the people I live with always want money and things.
When I was single I was miserable, but I'm not happy now either because I'm chained to one person. Well 2 since I am also chained to my mom.
Everyone acts like it is so easy to just be single and live on your own. It's not at all. Everything costs money and time.
Maybe the reason I feel like such a waste is because other people take so much of my time. I have so many projects and activities I want to do. Such as get more education, finish writing my cookbook, cook more, garden more, get a gym membership and go often. But idk when I have time to do those things because I am allowed no independence. I sit and waste my time all day at work never learning anything new, then I get home and mom barks orders. I have to start dinner or if I avoid cooking I have other chores to do. If I try to work out at home he complains that he just wants to relax and watch TV. We have a small house so I guess it bothers him. He wants me to sit beside him and be bored watching TV or watch him play vid games! Uggh that's the worst. Meanwhile my mind is ticking off all the things I need to be doing.
I feel much more lonely now. Maybe it's because I dread everything. Idk why but when I had more time to myself I felt more hopeful and less lonely. Now I just feel old and tired like I never had any youth it just got taken away a long time ago.
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
Years ago, I was working two jobs. One full time and often with overtime, and one part time job. I made time for myself so I could run. I started small, like the distance between two telephone poles, because I was so out of shape, but I did it every day and eventually, was able to increase my distance. Many years later, I was able to finish a marathon which is a memory, I will never forget!
Find your passion, and "do it" no matter what anyone else says! Write that cookbook and share your recipes with others. I would love to be the first to buy it and read it! Get a gym membership and make time to go every day. As part of the membership price, and on your first trip to the gym, you will get a trainer who will show you how to properly use the machines and he/she will set you up with a program through which you can chart your progress. It was fun, being able to add more weights to the machines, over time, and being able to go a little faster or longer on the treadmill! You will see people of all shapes and sizes at the gym who are all there for self improvement and are motivated to do so!
I love gardening because I love getting my hands dirty and planting things.. Food grown with Love always taste better then food grown at the grocery store and the essence of that love in that home grown food, rubs off onto us and makes us feel good! There is actually a science behind it.
The only one stopping you from fulfilling your passions is you and your family needs to support you in that way, but if not then just come here and we will give you a mountain of support!
So, follow your heart!
God Bless
Like in that movie: eat, pray and love! which I recommend to watch. Its inspiring, especially when trying to develop independence and confidence
With the boyfriend situation, you shouldnt have to disappear into your relationship. I mean, a relationship is with two individual people, right. Me and my boyfriend dont have a lot of things in common, but we enjoy each others company and find middle grounds. Dont be shy to tell him your interests You might be surprised, he might like them too! or atleast show some interest
Make time for yourself darling, keep an open mind not just for others but for yourself. And if it helps, we are all in the same boat in a way that I too get lonely. But its okay! nothing wrong with it =)
Atleast, we arent alone in that! hope that was comforting wishing you better days and sending good vibes! cheers
Do you feel trapped? Dont be afraid to strike out on your own, if that’s what’s best for you. You have the right to a choice. If you have all these ideas of things you want to do, don’t let that go.
I hope you’ll figure this out. Wishing you well.