Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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openheart
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Happy new year everyone.


However for me, its same old, same old. The new year never rings in on a positive note for me and sets the tone for another lonely and sad year to come. Everyone I know is off this new years eve, and some don't really have plans. I have reached out to everyone, yet no one wants to spend it with me. They have flaked on my requests. So, once again, I am alone. I have no one I can depend on, no one that demonstrates that they actually care for and value me. This is how I feel about it anyways. I am considering going to the bar by myself. However, I always feel so uncomfortable doing this because I feel completely pathetic sitting at the bar by myself. Especially because I am shy and introverted. It is hard for me to approach others, and to maintain an interesting conversation. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to sit at home alone... but I also don't want to sit at the bar and be a pathetic lump while everyone around me has a good time, except for me. Either way, it is destined to be a terrible night and start to the year ahead. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Carolin57
Carolin57
I am at home alone by choice I find the crowed bars make me anxious. My husband loves to socialize though so he's gone out. So far since 7pm I have read a lot of a really good book and now considering opening some fizzy wine. I guess I am lucky in that I don't mind my own company. I am in the UK and it's 8 minutes past 11pm now so not long for me to ring in the new year. If you're in America consider a movie to focus on. If all else fails then there's always DS. Although it's slow tonight I shall be around until my husband rolls in at two, three hours from now.
koolman
koolman
Go to a movie. I'm seeing Rogue One. You don't have to socialize and can get absorbed in a story and characters embroiled in a struggle that might take your mind off your struggle.
Tired
Tired
After the new year you could try meet up groups, volunteer for something
you care about. Join a singles social group. Get therapy.. It's extremely hard
when you're shy. Group therapy and individual therapy helped me. Plus a
lot of uncomfortable, hard work. But it was sure better than staying like I was.
openheart
openheart
Thanks guys. I also like my own company, but it gets lonely sometimes. Especially, when I'm always on my own. But tonight, there is a hockey game on, so I've decided to go to the pub and watch it at the bar. I do that sometimes, and if all else fails, the bartender usually chats me up and sometimes gives me free drinks. I have done meet up groups and I also volunteer, but in those I always end up being awkward. I feel like I just can't seem to find anyone that actually understands me or that I connect with.
rainbowlegacym55
rainbowlegacym55
I know loneliness. my dog helps me but it is not worth it to go out. I went to starbux today and it was good . at least it is some place to go. I need to work on my social life as I am now on retirement.. Just another night. staying in watching THE HELP it is a great movie. come on over and watch . LOL happy new year everyone
Cristiangel
Cristiangel
Hang in there! I am not sure where you are in your life but life often brings unexpected surprises! Sometimes when you least expect it. Don't give up. What I did during lonely times is to try to keep busy and do things that I couldn't do with others.
Lilysawyer
Lilysawyer
Do you have any hobbies? Have any friends or family you could spend time with? I belong to some meet up groups and go to events with them. It's not good to be alone. I know that is when all kinds of negative thoughts invade my mind and make me feel depressed and all the bad thoughts come in. So get out and do something you like to do.
Tired
Tired
I was lonely for many years because of extreme shyness. Things wouldn't have changed
without therapy with a special therapist. She also had me in group therapy. I eventually made
a friend at a singles group. And my Aunt told me about and paid for dating service.
This was in the days before internet. They first person I was matched with eventually became
my husband. So don't give up.
openheart
openheart
Thanks for the support guys, its nice to know I am not alone. I hope, cristiangel, that I do get some good surprises soon, because I think I am waaay overdue for at least one. My life feels like its going downhill. I worry it is because of my negative outlook and attitude. Perhaps (and I hope) it just means that it will soon turn back around...
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