Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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too picky?

sadtomato
sadtomato

i was in this group before, very briefly, then the site switched over and i haven't been back on - this is my new profile.


recently i've moved 1000 miles away from everyone and everything i know. i'm married, but it's more a marriage of convenience and comfort than one of passion.


i find it incredibly difficult to meet people and especially to connect. i don't like small talk and chit chat, i'm actually ok with silence.


i've always wanted something deeper and something more and find it next to impossible to find.


people in my age group have children and i don't so it makes it very difficult to find anyone to spend time with, or our interests just don't mesh as i'm quiet and solitary and not into the same things as most people. i also usually get along with men better than women, though i've always had a couple close female friends.


while i am the kind of person who likes my own company and has no problem with solitude, i am feeling very isolated because there isn't even the option of other people at this point.


i'm very much not the "meetup" type and would just like to have someone to talk to. in a perfect world to ocassionaly have drinks or catch a movie with.


this used to be so easy and i wonder if i'm being too difficult and picky as i get older, but most the time i'm in a group of people (like the husband's friends) i just want to go home.

bigtimefun
bigtimefun
trying a church might be a good way to meet caring people rather than the meetup groups.....just a thought....
what was your old user name? we have a lost and found group where you can post to let many know of that name change too....see it under community groups at the bottom of support groups....
maria718
maria718
It sure is difficult as heck to meet new people. I am in NYC, and, in a City as big as NYC, you'd THINK you could meet people??? Man, I haven't seen SO MANY lonely people here, in a City as big as this!! I just don't get it. I commute every day to work, take the bus at the same time every day, see the same people. Tried many times to make small talk. All of them seem uncomfortable talking at all to ANYONE. Even the bus driver is friendlier than these same people every day. AND yes I DO think we get pickier as we get older. I give up!!
MrEthereal
MrEthereal
That bad in NYC? Try rural Idaho. If I meet someone they are either a raging alcoholic or a meth head. Sometimes being alone is safer.
annettearizona
annettearizona
you might try getting involved with volunteer work and into crafts and hobbies which interest you-that way you will meet others with the same interests
Rosebud67
Rosebud67
I could have written that post myself. You are NOT alone! Hugs.
K9Dame
K9Dame
Picky is good when it comes to people! I think most of us nowadays choose to err on the side of caution with strangers. I try to give people I see often their space, be friendly and polite, but generally keep conversations light.
We never know what someone is going through.
I have become more acclimated to being alone now that my kids have their own families. Focus on my immediated family relationships and love to observe my dogs. Nothing like the enthusiasm of a canine welcome home even if you just ran out to get a loaf of bread! You'd think I had been gone for a year... With all the whisker tickles and butt-wiggles and bringing of doggy toys like now YOU ARE HERE LET'S PLAY!!!
sadtomato
sadtomato
k9dame, i think picky is good as well...there is nothing worse than "settling", then being unhappy with the company you are in and longing for home and solitude the entire time. thanks everyone, for your comments and suggestions.
victor
victor
I always say to myself, "If you can stand loneliness, you can avoid bad company." It is keeping a balance, don't you think? But test your "friends" though nowadays before you trust them.
MrCarolina
MrCarolina
loneliness is a terrible feeling, especially when it arrives in a room filled with your husband and his friends. What do YOU like to do? It's easier to be yourself when there is common ground. Find groups that have similar interests and get to know them. See what happens.
lostsoul72
lostsoul72
I am always looking for new friends on DS and in real life. I am genuinely a caring person and can talk about anything. I have a few friends around me in my day to day life, but no family left so I have this huge hole in my life and heart. If you ever need/want to talk look me up. Hope you are having a great day!