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Three's a Crowd?

Carle
Carle

To be as undramatic and objective as I can, I'm in love with a young married woman with children, and I'm setting myself up to be hurt.  Her husband is a louse (she's very friendly, and has two jobs, but he has none), and she calls me a special friend.  However, she has another friend who I suspect may be a secret lover, and it really smarts.  I want to be a part of her life in some way.  What to do?

maria718
maria718
Don't get involved. Too much drama going on. Detach from it, it will only drag you down.
Solus
Solus
This sounds too complicated. She is not a available. Whether or not she has something with a secret lover- she is a married mother. You already said it. You're setting yourself up to get hurt. I'm wondering, is she leading you on, calling you a special friend. Does she guess your feelings- and the other guy? If her husband is no good and she decides to part with him, then there might be potential for a relationship. But right now, I wouldn't advise getting in the middle of it.
tinaa
tinaa
You need to walk away from this situation. You are being used and will get hurt. When women really love and care about someone, they are faithful and truthful and committed. This woman sounds like someone who is all about options. You are an option. If you really care about her you would want to be a priority. If a woman really thinks you are a special she makes you feel this way by divorcing or getting rid of her other options to be with you. Walk away.
Yard_Eggs
Yard_Eggs
You are a 60 year old man; surely you know better than to get mixed up in this.

Contrary to popular opinion, I believe it is YOU that attempt to use this young woman for personal gratification.
AnnieToman
AnnieToman
she is married for God's sake, doesnt that matter any more?
for everybodies good let it be.
almatheid
almatheid
If she's married leave her be and if she's a adulteress she can't be relied on. She won't be true to you or honest.