I find Sundays are hard. I use to cook a wonderful dinner for my children, but they are no longer here, sigh!

Have you ever tried a meetup group in your area? I do a lot of things on my own. Done it for so long I don't mind.

Thanks cedarbrook. I miss family dinners too. I hope you at least get to see your family sometimes. Makes it all the more precious when you see them.
I don't mind my own company but I do miss people. I should look at meetups even something like a walking or theatre group. I've thought about it. I feel a little shy/fearful.

My loneliest time, ironically, was the night after my family gave me an intervention about my self-mutilation. Long story short, it was sort of a good experience, but mostly a bad one

Yes. Ironic how we can feel our loneliest when people make themselves available or step in- family no less. Sounds like it was for the best.
Hope you're recovering well.

I have only one brother no other family. I find the holidays the worst. Especially when everyone asks what you did and it was nothing but a regular do nothing day. Then they proceed to tell you of all the fun they had.

For me is weekends and nights, have insomnia and live with mother for the time being but not the same. Long for company or to be lying next to a special someone!

@Solus I recovered well. Thank you.

Friday nights definitely....weekend is beginning, everyone else is up and about, and I'm all dressed up and no place to go---no place to go all weekend! Oh yeah that's depressing, right now I'm sitting on my couch all dressed, with laptop. Well I guess that's how tonight will go...

The older you get, the harder it gets to find friends. Everyone is busy with their families. Since children live at home longer, I'm finding the people in my age group busy with their children in their 20's and 30's. They travel together, go to company events together etc. When need a place for those of us with no one.

I find most nights extremely difficult. Throughout the day I can keep busy. At night its much harder. I have high anxiety and at night is the worst. I miss my ex because he was who I spent my nights with, the person I spoke to throughout the day, and the person I miss the most.

Beautifuldisaster83. I could have written your post. The nights are horrible. I turn the TV up to help drown out my anxiety and racing mind. At night you are alone with your thoughts. During the day there are more signs of life like birds, traffic, people outside. not at night. you are all alone. I miss my ex too. We talked all the time. We spent our nights together. He was there to fill the void. Even our bad times which were few, were better than this empty lonely feeling. No wonder people stay together when things are not going so well.

Thr nights for sure... Missing that peraon that you loved.. Holding or even talking on the phone.. Hearing there vpice.. Its so quiet at night how can you not be lonely..

I love this group. Everyone here posting how they truly feel. Not holding anything back. I love it. Thank you! All of you.

Yup Fridays, then there is Saturday and Sunday. I'm a shy introvert and all that nonsense but I force myself into social situations. Meetups, clubs, run outings,.. I haven't had much time, but recently I've been eating at restaurants alone, just so I can talk with the waitstaff, not that they have time for it, but just being in a conversation with someone helps? Nah, often I don't want to go home because I know how lonely it is.

Every once in a while, there seems an opportunity for a friendship, however I find even if I push and force myself and act all cheery and say how their ideas are smart (even when I disagree) not a single person has ever put the effort in to even say hello afterwards.

For example, recently met a guy that is my age that I worked with that was having trouble getting his management to recognize his value. I offered to help, go to lunch, would try to engage conversation... Once I asked about his hobbies, what he liked to do, he went on for 30 minutes which was good because I prefer to listen over talking. He invited me to join him, so said yes.
Never heard from him again. Tried several times to start a conversation but nothing.

Every once in a while i also suggest on this forum that we as lonely people should be friendly, like find someplace to have group conversations that aren't about loneliness. It's should make it easier for the shy amidst us as it's online, but also there is understanding what we are all going through. It might just be the jumpstart we need to feel confident about finding offline friends, or at least take the bite out of loneliness if we can chat live or even if we can't make it at the same time it's still something to fall back on. Not sure why, but it never seems to pan out

@imlostinlife good that you're putting yourself out there especially as you are introverted. That must take huge effort.
I like your idea about a group to chat. From reading posts, I'm learning that d.s ( and this loneliness group) is not as busy as it once was, which is a shame as it could be the perfect place. I'm happy to get involved in other discussions. We could try to get this group busier, do an off topic post or start a community group? I'm new so not that familiar with how things work here.