I'm so sorry you are experiencing this, it must be the universe Clearinghouse because it's happening to everybody, my "relationship'" I wrote about as well, it seemed I knew what he wanted he just didn't want it from me, that sh*t hurt so bad because I couldn't understand the difference in me giving or someone else besides I know my stuff is good and pure, but everyone gets to make their own choices regardless how stupid it seems to us..lol. I realized for myself I didn't know I could choose myself as priority and that revelation spoke volumes Because I was running all over the place trying to secure others and I forgot all about Me, it wasn't their fault and i had to as well as you take full responsibility for not honoring ourselves better, She leaving has set a beautiful opening for someone Worthy to enter but it'll only happen after you fill your emotional hole up, you'll be alright just learn that lesson so you don't have to repeat it again,

Thank you for your words. It really is such a terrible hurt to find out that the feelings you have for someone is powerful and real but they truly don't feel the same or just not that much as you feel. I know I have a problem with not loving myself. I understand I need that first and foremost before I can give love to someone else in a healthy way. I think i'm just so used to depending on that one person to love me enough so I can just forget about my problems. But you are right about learning the lesson, I think I need that journey of filling that emotional hole up with love for myself.

Life is all about lessons....

The best way to get rid of old memories is to replace them with new ones. Try to focus on the present instead of the past. The present is the only time you can change.

You will find someone else and you will be happier and you will find that deeper emotional relationships can last for an eternity, and are much more spiritually rewarding

God Bless

Thank you so much, I don’t know why but this made me feel like I can do this. I’m going to do my best.

First up, I’m so sorry that your feeling this way, and you’ve come to the right place.

I hear you say your say your sad because your now alone, not that your sad because this particular person is not with you anymore, or you miss this particular person.

This in itself is a good thing, so don’t get disheartened, it means it can be fixed.

You may just crave to have people around not necessarily a relationship? And if that is the case then this is the time to pick yourself back up and take this opportunity to find like minded people and gain new friendships, and many different friendships. That way should one be busy or away etc then you’ll have others you can go to and spend time with to fill this loneliness you feel.

You could start by looking at what types or hobbies or things you enjoy, and maybe join groups or classes that way you’ll meet people that also enjoy those things.

It won’t be easy, you’ll need to take the first step and put yourself out there and do things you may not really feel like doing right now but in the long run it will help,

And we are always here to listen and help.

I find the first steps is always the hardest, especially for me when thinking of trying to be sociable.

I never had a good track record for making friends and keeping them but I know I need to try. I think fear of rejection is keeping me away for now. I’m still not confident enough to just be ok with accepting that not everyone has to like me or like the same things. I know I need to conquer these fears for sure, I’m just having a difficult time with them.

And thank you for that last part. Honestly I came on here writing my feelings away cause i just needed to let them out, i didn’t think anyone was really going to listen but everyone on her is extremely supportive and i just feel like I’m not as alone as I think.

Sorry to hear that, man.

I'm not trying to sound mean or unhelpful at all here. I very much want to help. So, I'm just saying that, in comparison to you, I've basically NEVER had a relationship with a woman yet, and I'm 44! It sucks. Well, it was all right for years, but I've been seriously looking the last 5(?) years and can't find anybody. You know, I am a very patient and accepting person to my problems, but at some point it's just like 'wth!?' Besides a few short relationships or just dates, I've been alone my whole life. When I was younger, I had to learn this hard way of living to be content with being alone, and make myself happy. I mean, it was already there, mostly, but just totally experienced that. I'm not trying to downplay your hurt and boredom at all. I'm just saying at least you had somebody. I know it feels like a double-edged sword right now, though. So, like the woman above said, try to do and notice other things in life. Other relationships besides lovers. Hobbies is a big one. I play guitar and bass and I totally love that and get lost in that every time.

I wish you the all the best!