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Step in the wrong direction

Rivasllene
Rivasllene
I guess I kind of pride myself in trying to do things my own way...maybe I'm just stubborn lol. In the back of my mind I know i still feel like I'm trying to fit in, in a way. But I would never want anyone to see that, of course. It makes me feel so alone sometimes....
In other words I act all tough but in reality I think I'm mentally weaker than everyone else
billwfriend
billwfriend
welcome...weak or strong we all need people who we can be friends with....hugs bill
Rivasllene
Rivasllene
Thank u bill!!!
Icing
Icing
I read once if you keep pretending long enough you will eventually become that person. Not sure where I read that, it sounds kinda silly, but maybe it's true.
Rivasllene
Rivasllene
I could agree with that, icing. I suppose it it just like any learned behavior, it becomes a habit and starts to become more real. I just wish I really had confidence instead of pretending that I do. I have a feeling that the people really close to me can see through it, but I'm too bull-headed to admit it to them. I would like to take pride in being different but ever since I was younger I've been different and it was never a cool thing then. Ive been trying to tell myself for years to suck it up...but it's not working lol
lucillegem
lucillegem
its all about perspective hun! what you think about yourself is much more important than what other people think. Dont make yourself a enemy. "Love yourself and things will fall into place"
i hope you gain the courage to be open =)
Rivasllene
Rivasllene
Thank u Lucille. Yes, I need to just do things for myself and not worry about what others think. I know deep down inside I have a lot of light to hine through :)
DeuceBMG
DeuceBMG
Yes,it is nice to be able to do things on your own,but it also isn't a weakness to have to ask for help! I've spent a lot of years trying to do things on my own which really hasn't gotten me very far! Hope you're able to get beyond your pride so you can really get any help you may need!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe at some point you were not accepted for being you, and you feel now like you're not good enough, so thats why you go to so much trouble to 'do things your way as you say'.
Start by recognising and loving yourself, don't try to be somebody you're not. But do this gradually, a day at a time, and go easy on yourself. Its rare that people change overnight.
Good luck :)
We are always here.
Rivasllene
Rivasllene
Deduce, yes you're right, I have too much pride. I don't know where that comes from since I also have terrible self-esteem. I feel like an oxymoron or something. I will tell myself or others that I don't care, but when someone offends me or tries to challenge me I'm all in to argue. I don't get it!!
And success, yes, while growing up I stayed in the background, but now I guess I feel more in a position of authority..like I was a child for so long and all of a sudden had to grow up. There's no balance!
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