Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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HowMuchLonger
HowMuchLonger

For the past couple of years I’ve been going through a rough patch I guess you could say. I’ve been really focused on myself mentally, physically and spiritually. I’m no where near where I want to be, but I’m on the right path at least. 


While dealing with all my demons the friends I thought I had are gone. I’m alone and I have no life literally do the same thing every day. Wake up, work, home, repeat. I’m having a hard time moving out of my comfort zone. Talking to new people and making Friends. I think way too much and care a lot what others think of me. Tonight I went on a whole cleaning spree so I wouldn’t have to be alone with my thoughts. Cleaning gives me this weird sense Of calm and while my house is nice and clean I find myself with nothing else to do, but to analyze everything that has lead to this very point. 


The one thing I keep asking myself is, what the hell is wrong with me? Did I do this to myself? Will I be alone forever? It’s a dark endless road and there is no light.


I apologize for the long rant, but I needed to write this down and get it out. 

peterthegreat
peterthegreat
It is hard to find someone will be with you, do things for you for free. I have been paying someone for years. Keep looking. Find a dating coach or go to the dating service.
Stoney.
Stoney.
honestly its sounds like you need to start with a companion a pet would be best. i am no Dr. or nurse or anything like that but i have had pets and they are wonderful when you have no one try a golden retriever, Siamese cat, a lizard or snake, some rodent perhaps.....w/e the case it will help and give you a bit more courage to go meet others. again this is not medical advice....just some friendly advice. good luck to you.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Try to focus on the positive and try to focus on the light that you mentioned. Our minds are like magnets and we tend to attract, the things we focus on the most.. Our minds are very powerful so read a book with a happy story or watch a movie that has a happy story with a happy ending. Follow your passion weather it be music, or painting or writing or whatever it may be....

Meditation is also good for the mind and good for the soul. There are many good guided meditations on You tube. Good Luck

God Bless
maria718
maria718
I remember years ago I was like you, I'd wake up, go to work, come home, have dinner, go to sleep. Day after day after day. I used to be so sad and depressed when I got home from work as there was nothing to look forward to.
I'd also do the cleaning thing as a way to keep my thoughts in control. When I clean, I think of nothing. It does help me too, but we have to get a life!!
Eventually I started doing things after work, even if it was just window shopping. Maybe then get take-out food, or walk around my neighborhood. Anything just to avoid being home alone. Then I started a bit of volunteering once a week after work. Like I said, anything to keep me from being alone.
Please force yourself to get out there and do things after work. Just going to work will make you more depressed, and then people at work will shun you too. Just make yourself get out, even if it's just window shopping!
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
HowMuchLonger, my recommendation is to seek out things you enjoy...even if you have to do them initially yourself...but just find things that interest you as well as get you out of your routine. Take a class, join a gym, take up a hobby, volunteer, etc. Hopefully by pursuing something you rejoys, you will be able to break out of your daily cycle and add some variety...be doing something you enjoy and allows you to grow...and maybe through that you will find someone who shares what you enjoy that may lead to sharing the activities with others.
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