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saturday night

ann54
ann54
I couldn't stay still and stay in the house all evening so I went to the gym, how sad is that? I was surprised there were others there too, I guess not everyone has an exciting night. it felt good to get the exercise, I would of liked to have gone to the movies but that wasn't to happen. I could of found many things to do here in the house but I was agitated again with danny and had to get out, besides I need something to fill today with. we are getting another snow storm, starting this afternoon till Tuesday morning! it is depressing even though I have lived in the northeast all my life it gets tiring come februrary. I have no place to shovel the snow to, the hills of snow are to high. I have a very early morning tomorrow and it will be earlier still with having to get up earlier, I will be up at 4:15, yuck. my anxiety hasn't left me and I just feel down. it is interesting how people at work, even at my other store, until they now the situation think I am divorced, they even say it to me. so now in the new store, new people, I have to re live the story again and it is painful, the time seems like yesterday then. even though it has been 25 years I still miss peter so much and I have him in the back of my mind every day, is that normal? it is not that I don't want to meet someone I do, but I will never let go of m feelings, he is always in my heart, but there is room for another bt there is no one. I don't help myself with this, I don't put myself out there, rejection, scared and the feeling of such ugliness. I need to find a way over these feelings or I will die an old lonely lady.
billwfriend
billwfriend
Ann I am assuming your husband died long ago? I am sorry....that will always remain in your heart...the girl I just dated but no longer do was also a widow at about 42....she is now 56.....her husbands family abandoned her and the three children they were left with....she now has a 16 yr old son an 19yr old son and a 20ish daughter....she had a small child when they abandoned her....she went so far as to change her name and the childrens names to her maiden name after they did that....

I do not know what the world holds for you but if your in NE someplace look up meetup.com and join an older persons singles group and some other groups to get yourself out there....it sure as helps the loneliness....it is because you choose which events you wish to attend of those the organizers plan for your group....most groups are free or may collect a $1 at the event to offset costs....my group, singles over 50 I instituted a $3 yr member dues....so they pay to be members....we had almost 500 members and dropped significantly down to about 75 when the trial period was over but those members who did not pay were inactive as well....if they cannot afford $3 and no other fees but whatever the event costs are like dinner or baseball tickets they are tight wads...LOL

but I like you have a gym to get out to....I hate to work out....hate exercise....abhor it...LOL but my goal is to buy bike to ride to get a bit of exercise
ann54
ann54
yes he was killed at age 32 and I am now 56, so a long time ago. the children were 5,3 and 15 months at the time. my mother in law was basically uselss, well always was, so after a year I moved back to my home town to raise the children, family near and helpful.
I have looked into meet ups, joined a few even, but I cant seem to get myself to go. I cant stand myself for this, I am my own worst enemy. I have good intentions even tell my sister I am going to some event then back out. I don't know what to do.
ann54
ann54
forgot to add I don't know what I would do without some form of exercise, it is such a stress and anxiety release for me. I am really hoping to attend some hiking meet ups as that is something I really do like.
annettearizona
annettearizona
keeping yourself busy mentally and physically is the best medicine-and then you just keep on yourself to treat yourself better and do things you enjoy doing for YOU
kathywonders
kathywonders
Im sorry Peter had to leave you so young! That just seems unfair. Youve learned to live with that but the sorrow is still there. I understand that its hard when your new colleagues make assumptions about you.

Its good you can go to the gym and exercise indoors. Theres nothing wrong with going on a Saturday night. We dont all have to conform to the same weekly schedule - and besides its actually not that uncommon to exercise on a Saturday night...

I know the feeling of getting fed up with the snow in February - and knowing it wont be going away any time soon. So far Im doing OK this year. Sometimes when it snows a lot in April I feel Im going crazy about the weather and "eternal" snow.

Any word about the job at the vets?
CrossingtheBorder
CrossingtheBorder
exercise is the best! It is not pathetic at all to be at the gym on a Sat. Much better than the drunk fools at bars that will feel like crap Sunday morning~ It's all about changing your perception of what you think a good life should be. Change your definition. That's what I'm doing.
ann54
ann54
great ideas, I need to look at my life and what I do differently. it made me feel better and that should be all that matters. I have not heard from the vet, I called today and they have not filled the position, I wish I would get a call or something. thanks everyone
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
I go to the gym often on Friday/Saturday nights and on holidays...so I don.t think it is strange. Often times there are other people there too. I just look at it as an opportunity to improve myself...and I generally so good after exercising.

I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. I think it is wonderful that he is still so much in your thoughts all of these years...showing how much you loved him and the respect you have for that live.

In your case, I think it is ok to fall in love with someone, while still keeping your love for your former husband in your heart. You just need to give yourself permission to love again.
billwfriend
billwfriend
Oh Me Too...I go to the Online Gym...I exercise my fingers daily at the keyboard....LOL

I hate to work out....but I want to by a bike to attempt to work out riding round places that I would just decide to get on bike and go to...like the Frozen Custard stand down the road or the Taco Bell...LOL

ok so I am a comedian tonight...sue me! LOL
ann54
ann54
exercise helps me very much emotionally and I also feel good after, but it is also a way for me to feel okay with eating, I have trouble eating much without guilt if I don't do enough. I want to love again, I have been wanting it for a long time, just don't get myself out there. laughter is the best medicine as they say and it is great to find humor in life, just smiling brightens a day!
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