Hi there I am new to this and feel in a way the same I just wish I had someone to talk to at times someone who does not judge me for what I do or say I am here to talk to when u need it

wow.. well its a cliche, but they couldn't have been the good friends you thought they were, and that 1 friend who was so blunt with you, harsh.
Just as a point of view tho, maybe she felt the friendship was a bit one sided, as you do say you've talked all day every single day. It sounds more like you need a counselor than a friend in that respect.
So what kind of bad funk are you going through?

As a husband myself I can say that for us it's a natural instinct for us to try to fix things or make "uncomfortable" situations go away from our own messed up upbringing. When my wife is struggling with someone I have to really really focus and remind myself to listen and not fix and provide empathy but I'm not good at it. That's probably where it seems your husband doesn't understand unless he's just flat mean about it

Hi there. Thank you for sharing and welcome to the group. I have been there and understand how it feels to lose friends when you are in the thick of it. From my experience, I needed more than a friend; I needed to be able to talk with someone about everything without judgement and with a non-attached perspective. I started going to a therapist and it was refreshing to be able to share and not worry about what they thought and to receive truly insightful help. It really took the pressure off of me and my relationships with others improved. I am able to express things more now with my husband without the expectation, from me or him, that I need help. Friends and family are there for you, but from my experience having an outside support that is there for me is more productive. I hope this helps and that you continue with this group.

If you won't break the wall down with your husband you can't have a marriage. If you only want to talk to people who are not there, that's a really bad sign.

I think if you want a genuine relationship, there's one sitting right there wanting to be had. Have it, or leave him. Piss, or get off the pot. The other guy definitely had to leave, that's not okay being the third person in a marriage where the other guy thinks he's in there alone with you.

2 kinds of people in marriages: the ones who will talk to their spouse, and the ones who will talk about their spouse. If you don't want to become one, you must become the other.

Hi Erin, that is almost exactly why I joined this! My boyfriend isolated me from many of my friends ( thats another story ), and as my life is falling apart, i began to lean on my neighbor of nine years. She seemed concerned and like could relate to me. Today my bf and had an argument, I was yelling and he was too at the same time. He later told me that when he left, my neighbor was outside and told him that I talk too much and that I do that everyone! She doesnt know anyone I know, and Im assuming she feels that i talk too much to her. So Im not going to bother her anymore but I am lonely. Anyway, i can relate, and I think its pathetic that people who have been your friends through the good times decide to bail during the bad times. But, I guess people suck..just know you arent alone..