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Need a life outside of my relationship

AllyssaB
AllyssaB

I love my boyfriend, I really do. But being with him all the time, I have secluded myself from my friends. I didn't really notice it at first because we had the same work schedule so anytime I wasn't working we would be together doing stuff. But since school started back up in August, I went part time in my job so I have some alone time on nights I'm off but my boyfriend still goes to work. Now when he works and I'm off I just sit in the apartment by myself. Maybe go get some food and watch tv or lose myself in Tiktok videos, but still by myself. I was okay with the alone time at first, but lately it's started to feel really lonely. I tried reaching out to my friends but it seems like they've moved on and are having fun with their other friends, which I don't blame them because I chose to seclude myself, but now I don't know what to do. I'm not a super outgoing person that makes new friends all the time so I'm just kind of lost right now.

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
It's really healthy to have friends outside of a relationship. We can't expect one person (our partner) to be everything for us. It is so good that you recognize this.

Do you still live with those roommates? Or do you and your boyfriend live together now?

I would say to keep reaching out to your friends. Trying one time might not have been enough, as they could have been busy or distracted when you tried to contact them. Keep trying to contact them. And when you do, suggest that you get together. Sometimes we have to make the first move and come out and say "Hey, let's get together this weekend".

Good luck. You can do this.
billwfriend
billwfriend
Sorry this happened. I guess friends were not as much friends as acquaintances
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
Try to reach out, yeah I don't think being with the same person all the time is good for a relationship. Always wondered about the couple who work together so there's no change of scene in coming home or conversely going to work..
cbreez
cbreez
This isn't uncommon especially in new relationships and unfortunately with young women, there are no wrong ppl just different directions, we grow up and sometimes away from the ppl in our lives, perhaps the loneliness you feel is something to awaken you to newness, don't look at it as negative, what are some of your interest at this point? Are there things you held off on because you didn't want to leave your boyfriend by himself? The world is opening back up so you now have options you didn't have two years ago, how about yoga or a book club , poetry reading or a painting class, you can volunteer for the holidays to feed the homeless, what's your passion Evn if it sounds silly, You ever think about acting or theater classes, Just say yes to something even if it's just for a little while. Good luck
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
One option is to do volunteer work in your spare time. Thats a great way to meet other likeminded people and help others in the process.

Think of the things that interest you......think of the things you like to do....what do you have a passion for, get creative....which direction is your heart pulling you in and that's where you need to go. If you don't know, just look up at the sky and ask. You will get an answer.

God Bless
TurningtheSage
TurningtheSage
I feel ya. I'm in the same boat and find it hard to engage with others.
Lily61
Lily61
I’m sorry that you are in this situation. Unless your friends told you to get lost, I wouldn’t give up on them. Maybe try calling and asking when it would work for them to get together. Even if it is a time when your boyfriend is available, you should go. You could also try joining a group with a common interest - book club, hiking club, yoga class, etc. I am fairly introverted, so I understand this may feel uncomfortable at first, but you will get more comfortable if you make it a habit.
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