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GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727

Happy Monday everyone!  I haven't been having the best days.  Yesterday was 3 weeks since I braved a bike ride but fell when I tried to get off of my bike.  I already had a knee injury which was about 90 percent better.  My knee started hurting the next day.  My back is also out from lifting my bike over the kitty litter pan.  I had 3 appointments with the ortho but cancelled twice due to being sick and another time because it was feeling better.  Then the next day I went to see my Aunt in the hospital and my knee throbbed for the next 2 days.  This morning I was having sharp pains in it.  They subsided.  By the way, I am 63.  I swore as a child that I would always ride a bike.  I used to really enjoy long walks alone but I don't anymore.  I just ordered a Fitbit for free with my new insurance.  I was hoping to get exercise.  I have been dieting since January 1st.  I want to lose 75 pounds.  I lost 8 pounds and came to a standstill.  I have been having problems with my bladder.  I've had problems for over 20 years but in the last couple of months, I have had a bunch of bad days.  I can't leave home on these days.  Back to my diet, I have been researching hypothyroidism.  I have been taking medication for about 40 years.  I mentioned this to my best friend and found out that I have been taking the medication wrong.  For about 3 weeks now, I take it right.  I am thinking that two of my main problems, weight and a messy house, stem from my thyroid.  I have an appointment with my nurse practitioner tomorrow and will discuss more in-depth lab work.  A little less than 2 weeks ago, my Aunt had a heart attack.  She is still in the hospital.  She is the patient from Hell.  So frustrating.  This guy is interested in a relationship with me.  He's really nice to talk to but he's real intense.  The last guy I dated in 1998 was actually his brother.  Yes I have been alone for a very long time.  Dating got put on the back burner a long time ago.  Time is just marching on.  On a good note, I have a beautiful Siamese cat.  His eyes are two colors.  Blue in the middle and then green.  He is a lot of company to me.  I just needed to vent.  There are more family issues going on.  My youngest brother has been distant.  I asked him if he was mad at me and he said he's never been mad at me.  On another good note, my best friend and I are going on one of our thrift store excursions.  I may have to skip coffee that day.  My coffee is very important to me.  I start looking forward to it at night.  Sometimes I have it at 2 a.m.  



Thanks for reading if you got this far.

urbangardener
urbangardener
Are you hypothyroid and taking med for that? Did your friend say take it first thing in the morning with a glass of water and wait to eat for an hour? That is normal instructions and I wait about 30 minutes to eat if I am honest. But a full glass of water first thing in the morning is very good for the body. We are the same age. I am sorry about your knee, I have a bad knee also. I think you need to make that ortho appointment and get some kind of imaging. Know what you are dealing with. Mine is just wear and tear in three places and I had three shots over 3 years of hyaluronic acid in the knee and it was a miracle. Still have pain, can't ride a bike, but I can walk my neighborhood. I am going to suggest you cut out most of your carbs, cookies, sugar of any kind, etc. What I told husband who must lose about 30 pounds quickly for surgery is to cut his portions in half. So try that. Eat slowly but only eat half your normal portion. Skip the French fries with your hamburger. Or eat only half the meal. Cut it in half and put half into a storage container before you even sit down. I bought something called "GO LO" that sounds interesting if you want to look it up. I did not start it yet because I am having reflux issues. Lower your coffee intake - that will be hard but it does affect the bladder and kidneys. Try to drink water first in the morning and then in between your coffee refills. Get to a female gym-urologist about your bladder. They do all kinds of amazing tests, I am going through this now. Try to do less intense exercise. Start daily but easy. That riding the bike is a no, so go slower. Or join a gym like the YMCA and do everything easy. I love cats also. My body is failing me also. My only sibling is also very distant or self contained. This sibling is strange if I am honest, they believe in all kinds of odd stuff, like certain things are going to happen this week and then they don't happen. We are friendly but not friends and I wish she would be my friend BUT when I think about it, she has always been a loner and self contained. Maybe your brother is the same. Can't change them so... we must let it go and be what it is. Your aunt sounds pretty difficult. Sigh. We love difficult people sometimes and have to just persevere. Anyway, take care of yourself, Green Eyes. I also have green eyes. Small world. Big hugs.
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Thanks urban! What a thoughtful reply! I think I should see someone about my bladder problems. I'm sure the coffee doesn't help. I have loved coffee since I was maybe 12. One teacher used to make coffee in a beaker and I wanted some so badly. That was 7th grade IPS class. My brother is 12 years younger than me. I call him my twin-come-late because he is a lot like me. I cut down on my portions but I do a moderation diet where I can have a few cookies for a snack. Otherwise, I obsess terribly about food. I used to binge eat in the 80s. My Aunt is super difficult but we do love her. I recently realized that she does not smile anymore. Most of her conversations are about people doing her wrong. She used to be a lot of fun. I always say it's a small world. Went to Canada with my high school best friend the summer after 9th grade. I saw a girl walking down a dirt road with blue mascara on and I knew who she was. Everyone laughed at me until we went to a relatives house and this girl was doing the dishes! She was their foster daughter. That's my favorite small world story! Thanks again urban!
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