Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Ava142
Ava142

Lately things have been tough. Do you ever feel like you're in a landslide trying to fight your corner? Trying to get people to understand something you shouldn't have to explain in the first place? Loneliness for me is just that. Wherever I go it seems like I'm living in the Pink Floyd song 'Keep Talking' (if you haven't heard of it it's basically about being emotionally/verbally mute) - I haven't got family or friends to offload to and I am currently unable to talk to others around me or even begin to explain why I can't explain... I don't want to be a victim of life and I am a tryer; I'll keep going no matter what, and yes I have some days better than others but here's a thing... I'm 28, and as you get older does it increasingly feel like life is one big gamble, and it's like getting lost in New York city when you've only lived in the countryside, and people are duplicitious and sneaky, and everyone goes around bragging that this isn't this case or wipe it over saying it's all paranoia? It's frustrating because it feels dangerous to be myself. Hence the loneliness... Can you relate? Thanks x

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I can relate. My wife divorced me after a 24 year marriage and I was terrified of being alone. I had spent many years, living my life through someone else and I had no idea how to handle life alone.

After the initial shock of loneliness wore off, I began to try to get to know who I really was so I started looking at life as an adventure....like I was alian to this planet and just observing the people and things around me and experiencing life in a totally different way. It worked! I was feeling more comfortable at being alone with myself and entertaining myself and talking to myself.

As I got older, I became more and more depressed, more and more lonely because I had been looking for happiness in the world around me....but that's not where it is! Happiness comes from within! I began the practice of meditation. Things began to happen and I was having these feelings of unconditional love! It was amazing! I highly recommend meditation. There are lots of guided meditations on you tube. Find one that resonates with you.
Message me anytime.

God Bless
maria718
maria718
My sister once told me that if someone has a problem when they're younger, it gets magnified when they're older. I find this to be true, such as it was in my case. There was always paranoia and depression in my family, and I have it now too, got worse as I got older. Luckily, I was able to get help, went and still going for mental health issues. I got a lot better, but am still lonely and don't do well with people I don't know. It gets very lonely, only have one friend left, and I'm divorced many years. . I wish you luck my friend., I've been down this road. It isn't easy at all, but if you can get some help, it gets a lot better.
Twiceborn
Twiceborn
I can relate to all of that. Especially having no support system. I don't think anyone could handle the intensity if my lonlyness and depressed. My only support is my counselor and that is only once a month.
Sometimes she scares me by saying things like "the older you get the harder it is to find friends". That pretty much dooms me.
I wish I was a tryer like you, I get to a certain point and can't take anymore and just give up.
JoeDayByDay
JoeDayByDay
Yes, problems young become baggage when older. I stay cognitve of mine but it still takes so much work. Times I just can't deal with it and have to say Miller Time for a while,
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