it is at least only a short visit and you don't have the pressure to keep going if you are not satisfied with the first visit. I recommend either drinking coffee or tea or an aphrodisiac before you go it helps build a happy mood.

they are loads of fun....I really suggest you try it...the big book of AA says that there is one thing that always leads to failure...contempt without investigation....so go investigate!

Honey its so easy to scare your self on this but if you push your self to go you might have a real great time just do it. Wish i was there I would go with you. Stay strong and we are here to support you. Hugs

Girls night sounds fun, I think if you give it a try it will get easier for you. It doesn't matter if you don't know anyone, I bet people will talk to you. Was the girls night with people you know? What's the worse thing that could happen, no one talks to you. Big deal. It's actually more about you talking to THEM. Pick and choose who you want to talk to. It could be fun, never know unless you try.

If you don't try.....you will never know.....and nothing will change.
Go!! :)

I agree with Gina go for it and see what happens

What do ppl think about: ?

An expression used among lots of typical ppl is, "...to see who is there."

One could initiate a conversation, even, "I came for probably only a couple minutes; I didn't know if anyone I kew would be here." A little lame, I know. Kinda likely it will lead no where... But if you find no one, not one, standing idle for a moment something is wrong & it's no place for a reflective person who wants to be open.

In this latter case -- their loss.

I have gone to a few. I didn't know anyone. You will be ok.
I had to start somewhere.

I have a very love/hate relationship with Meetup. I don't drive so nothing is really feasible with a taxi at night-that with social anxiety, depression about not being cool or successful enough, or being very different from the typical organic, vegan liberal, secular type has just made the whole thing really just a source of stress :( I'm so sorry, having an awful day and had to vent.

Love yourself first and only then can you love another or love a million others.
The flower grows from the earth not knowing if she is a weed or a blossom - but she doesn't care, she just grows. Grow, glow, and smile. Keep your eyes wide open, your lips like the Mona Lisa, and express love. People will come to you. Ignore all around you except that you are beautiful.

Try an activity that you enjoy, for example a hike if u r a hiker, or a movie, then you have the movie to talk about after. I would be going to more of these, but they almost all are at least an hours drive for me.

I have similar issues. These things always sound good until its time to go to it. then suddenly I just want to stay home. I suggest you go for it!!
A fun and easy one I went to was game night at someone's house. It was great for interacting with new people. Just remember, everyone, has had their first time for a meetup, so they should be pretty friendly if you are that way yourself. Make sure you look good, then you'll feel good and confident, go, smile, take an interest in the other people and ask questions about a hobby or other meetups they've been to, that takes the pressure off of talking about yourself.

The girls night out was a meetup. I didnt know anyone. Sounded like a great time and would have loved to go, but got chicken.

Im trying to do more, like taking up someones offer to do happy hour with people I know a little or going out with a new friend, but the meetup thing just scares me a bit. Im trying to talk a friend into going with me atleast my first time so I wont feel so alone. She hasnt said yes yet.

Its just the whole feeling of being left out or walking into a group of people who know each other and Im the only one who doesnt. Silly I know. I need to get past it.

Im in a big city so there are tons of groups to join. Its the first step that is the hardest I guess. I need a push. lol

I've been to a couple of events in Belfast through meetup.com and coming from the sticks I had to bust a gut to get there.

It'll be worth it in the end.

Well, you won't necessarily be the only one who doesn't know anyone. If you friend won't go, push yourself. You can do it! And you can always leave if you are not having a good time.

Trust that love will prevail. There's always at least one person there that you will bond with!