Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Lonely but afraid to make new friends

rj84
rj84

Hi Everyone. I've just joined this group and feel like writing a little something. I'm 32 years old, and I feel very alone. The past few months have not been easy for me. My friendship with someone I considered my best friend ended a few months ago. We were roommates as well, and things just happened where I felt he was taking advantage of me and was quite verbally abusive. I wanted to leave anyway to take care of my father, who is having some health problems. So I guess this just made it easier. I've had these types of experiences with people before, and I thought it would be easy for me to get over. It's now. I lost several other friends because of this, and I feel alone. By nature I'm an introvert, and have been comfortable with it in the past. I want to talk to people again, but I'm so afraid that I will be hurt that I barely leave the house, except to go food shopping. I work from home full time, so there's no need to go out most days. I've reached out to some other groups here in the past, and the people have been quite comforting. Anyway, thanks for reading.

lucillegem
lucillegem
I am sorry to hear you are struggling. I remember a few years ago, I actually had anxiety attacks just taking the bus anywhere (I was afraid to see people esp from my past who have hurt me). But, honestly, time really helps with the pain. Id say give yourself time, be patient with it because its hard to go out there again if you feel you cant trust anyone. Someone once told me, in order to trust... you just trust. Trust that there will be a sunny day tomorrow, and know you arent alone here. Perhaps, take walks, get a pet? if you want. You say you work at home? if its on the computer... if you have a laptop you can go to a cafe? (just some ideas to motivate you to get out a lil more) its a good thing you are reaching out here.. :) I hope you have better days. warm hugs
mechengr55
mechengr55
Hi RJ,
This forum is a good place to find people to chat with. It helps to fill some of the emptiness of our lives. We all have similar stories, and we can talk about them openly with the depth of the internet between us. My life consists mostly of my full time job Monday-Friday, come home and work on projects on my house, walk the dog, go to bed. Weekends, a weekend job, come home too wiped out to do very much, go to bed. Having my little rescue mutt is a big help. Whether I have been at work all day, or just go out to the mailbox, she is so excited and happy to see me when I walk through the door! And I have to have some discipline in my life, having a little creature depending on me! But she can't talk, and that's where this site comes in---to find someone to talk to.
Welcome, and looking forward to chatting!
sadtomato
sadtomato
if i worked from home, i likely wouldn't leave the house and would be a full-blown hermit. work forces me to be social and i've even made a few "friends" there i go for drinks with once in a while. other than that, i am the most non-social person you'll ever meet. as a natural introvert this usually doesn't bother me. i enjoy my own company, am good at entertaining myself with a lot of creative interests and hobbies and tend to feel drained around most people anyway. but...sometimes...all i want is someone who "gets me" to hang out with. even if it's just to sit on the couch and watch a movie with, or go for a walk with. but i don't ever make an effort to go out and meet people. i would never do something like a "meet up" or be the one to suggest to someone that we get together. i'm picky and introverted and awkward and like to be alone...but sometimes i crave company. it's a really crappy double-edged sword. sorry to hear you're dealing with it, too.
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