he is never going to stop being selfish.....it is obvious he knows nothing about medicaid....if you have insurance already your better with that than medicaid anyway....sorry he is being an ass about Christmas....get him big lump of coal!

Love is what Christmas is about and your showing yours for your son....

I can't believe your son said that about not really wanting to help you and the way you found out,which you should not have been told to begin with. However maybe it's best that you did. I wouldn't take a dime from that selfish child. I wouldn't make any special accommodations for this son, whatsoever! He is spoiled child and seems to forget all you did for him while he was growing up. I would not feel sad at all nor would I feel upset. I would be angry, disgusted, and angry Yes, I said it again, that's how angry I would be.. I find it hard to believe that they are that selfish. It just makes me so angry!! My oldest son Jason knows I'm on disability and get one check a month which I barely get by on, yet he put me on his cell phone account, and also pays my monthly portion. I have unlimited texting and calling and even though it's only $10 dollars a month which I could figure out a way to pay, they want to do this for me. I wish you could just say Cancelled to the whole ordeal!! I know you can't but I just wish you could. Try to have a Merry Christmas and if you get stressed out, I will be on DS both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day for anyone who needs to talk.
Gentle hugs honey. Gramybear

you are both right, he will always be selfish and tight and yes I am angry, disappointed and upset, still. I don't want to see him on Christmas but as a mom I will and if the time isn't exactly to his liking, I have moved things ahead, to bad. he is one out of 16 others who will be here. to show more selfishness his g/f wants to stay home, where she grew up and where they live, but david wants here to come down here with him. I mistakenly said, laura doesn't have to come if she doesn't want to. wow, david said, mom, we will work it out amongst ourselves, okay. zip my mouth shut and they aren't even married yet. I fell bad because my parents know he is not helping, my dad asked me and he knows, even at my age, 57, when I am lying, so I told him. he is so disgusted and it hurts me so much. I have done nothing to prepare, not even clean, and I don't care. I have just a tree up and I would love to take it down. daviv also told colleen that I am only getting a card, wow, yippee. my dad said I am giving into him by arranging the time, but as it turns out it works out better for others to have it a bit later, but for me it will just make the day drag on and on.....grammybear I will likely be on looking for support.

I hate to hear when we try to please others at our expense...too bad you can't enjoy having your christmas without having to follow your sons demands...just have the party or whatever how you want! It is a special day and you enjoy it how you want to

thank you annettear, you are right. dinner is going to be later but it is more because a couple of family members it works out better for them, it will only be around 45 minutes later. the most important thing to me is having my parents here with al their children and grandchildren. merry christmas

That is so horrible that he is being that way towards you. He should want to help you. Maybe he is just selfish?

I hope Christmas went okay for you.

well, I had a surprise waiting for me on my bedroom dresser yesterday when I got home. david had written me an 800$ check! I was shocked. I know I had said I would never take a dime from him every again, but he gave this willingly without any strings. how could I say I don't want this? I told m mother thinking they would be so pleased and all she said was I thought you were never taking a dime from him again. that made me feel bad and that I dint mean what I said, but I do need the money and david knew I didn't need the money for the bills. why do people do these things, like my mother? why couldnr she be happy and glad her grandson did that
? they are leaving this morning, I will have the house to myself and my living room. first day of nothing to do with people. I shouldn't be complaining, I saw more people since Christmas then I have in a long time, but all those times were stressful for me and I was on edge, even with friends. I feel so weird, I should be happy about having some social life right now but I am burnt out. what I really would love is to meet a man for companionship, but I don't see that happening. am I wrong in accepting the money? is my mother right? funny, right now I have a pit in my stomach like a rock, a feeling of dread and upcoming loneliness and grief. I miss my husband so much even though he has been dead 25 years.

My parents are not living, but I would have jumped at the chance to help in anyway I possibly could, even if it meant I had to try to borrow for them. I think there comes a time in our lives when our kids still see us as being able to keep things all together as when they were kids. Then all of a sudden we begin to feel the vulnerabilities of lifes struggles a bit more. Some people never come to realize this, and others learn it at a very young age. I applaud you for being able to manage a gathering of that size and hope all went well. I hope the day never comes when I must ask our kids for help, I just don't need them coming to me for help if at all possible. I say keep the money, don't think twice about it, live by your own plans of what next year will bring. In time I bet your son will come to realize some things. Hopefully sooner than later. Best wishes and gentle hugs!

I cant stand the thought of being a burden to anyone, esp. family. I hopefully, have many more years to live still and the finical situation will not change much. I know the time is coming soon when I will have to sell the house and get an apartment, I ave so much that needs to be done here to get a price thaqt will help me live, it is a catch 22. ty for the best wishes and hugss

Has he always been self centered and selfish or is it a matter of him having to watch his budget? After reading that he did write out a check of 800 dollars to you, I wouldn't call him 'selfish' but maybe cautious. Unfortunately, though, most younger people today quickly forget all of what was done for them, including helping them out financially. Then again, times are expensive for everyone...and 800 dollars is no small amount. It appears he does care for you but maybe there are issues in your family relationship(s) that have created many other kinds of tension? As for your parents, I do think they have a point. They don't want you feeling hurt by your son, if he's always been a selfish sort. My thinking is...if you are having financial problems, and your parents can help, then it's better that THEY and not your children make the offer.